I have a question about the gap between generations and how it affects their relationship.?

Question

My parents are pure Africans , they still hold on to the entire african culture and all . I'm African too, being their child and all, but i've been influenced by the American culture. And sometimes, my mom when we have an arguement yells that i'm a nigerian, not an American and that i should act like what i am. I'm not acting anything, i'm being myself , and myself has been influenced by the American culture. But i guess she doesn't understand that , and i hate it when she says that, becasue there's a little bit of American in me after being here for so long, and it hurts that she doesn't want me to be myself. She wants me to act like a total Nigerian , but i guess she doens't know that who i am is a mix, she thinks i'm acting a little American because i'm in America and all. What's there to do about this ? What can i do ? Thankx !

Answer 1

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Don't try to discuss the issue in the heat of an argument. Ask your mother if she would set with you sometime and just talk. Assure her that she is not losing you and you will never turn away from your family and culture but that you enjoying trying new things that you see in the country you live.

Answer 2

First generations to America have always had this problem. The parents want to hold onto their roots while the children begin to assimilate. When you're old enough you can finally enjoy your own style. But watch it, because you're children will do the same thing to you and you'll resent it just as much.