Ladies, what would you do if you caught your husband watching porn?

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would you consider it cheating?

Answer 1

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i would...why? well because i feel that you are looking at another women...and not your wife...

my opinion...he should watch his wife when he wasnts to watch porn...

Answer 2

Kind of only because why would you look at porn if you have someone.

Answer 3

My wife and I watch it together...its fun...lighten up and try it...

Answer 4

I'd ask to join in.

Answer 5

I like to *perform* on him while he watches it.

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Heheh.

Answer 6

I will asked my husband why did he behide my back and will be veryy disappointed it But IF I know I will not mind.

Answer 7

no, i don't consider it cheating because i watch it myself.

Answer 8

I would chew his A$s Out and Yes I Would call it cheating

Answer 9

I cought my husband couple mo ago, WOW
major fight, I did feel cheated on, he apologized, it's not something to get a divorce over.

Answer 10

well I would definetly be upset in my world porn is cheating. I would ask him why he is looking at porn, if it was something i did or am not doing

Answer 11

Mmmmm that would get me going so I'd join right in!

Porn is only bad if ur not getting none and if he watching it then coming to u to complete him.

Get off it ladies would u rather the damn t.v or him f*cking the real thing, MY GOD!

Answer 12

I would give him 2 options, the porn, or me... he would have to stop or it would be over... divorce would be an option if he refused to stop watching it...

Yes, I'd consider it cheating... it's the way to cheat without actually being with a woman physically... to me it's the same as cheating...

It's morally wrong, to watch porn, in my opinion... The Bible says it's wrong for a person to look upon someone else with lust.

Mary

Answer 13

I would certainly feel that way, yes. I would talk to him about how I felt and ask him to stop. And if he didn't stop, I would leave, simply because I can't deal with it and I know it. I don't think it's fair to put him through **** because I can't deal with it, and I don't think I should put myself through **** by staying if he doesn't wish to give it up. As a woman, I can tell you that I want to be loved, cherished, adored for me, and only me. And the idea that he wanted to look at anything or anyone else and that he still love me don't go together--it's like water and oil--they just don't mix.

Answer 14

i'd probably watch it wit him, it depends i dont like watchin girls eat girls. so if it was a big ding a lang on there i'd watch lol

Answer 15

I don't like when my husband sneaks off to watch porn..although I don't consider it cheating I'm offended that he wouldn't just come upstairs and ask for sex..I think i've had one headache in 14 years.

Answer 16

I'd join him and probibly make him rewind it.
it's not cheating

Answer 17

I would watch it with him. And I don't consider that cheating.

Answer 18

I don't mind him watching it. We watch together. BUT- anything beyond that is not right and he knows I won't have it. Such as chatting or calling a 900 number.

Answer 19

What's to "catch"?? So he's watching porn - big deal. Is there a real woman in the room/bed with him? (besides you obviously) No? So he's not Really Cheating!
*Did you ever think he might have a stronger or higher sex drive than you?
*Or maybe he's getting ideas on things to try with you?
*Does it happen when it's "that time of the month" for you? If yes - why should you both have to suffer? Find ways to work around "it". We have.

This "issue" is So Not worth fighting over! So you walk in and see him watching it ... have a seat and watch with him. Sit in his lap ... or better yet, go down on him and remind him why the real thing (his woman) is SO much better than something on the computer/TV.

Blessings

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We've been together for over 17 years - nope, not a perfect marriage, but definitely better than most. Not an open marriage (no sharing!!) but we do have an open communication. We talk. That's the only way to really know each other - openly share all parts of your lives with each other.
And Never try to change each other - you married the person you fell in love with, not "this season's fashion", to be changed when "it's" no longer The Fashion!

Answer 20

Watch it with him.

Answer 21

I would ask him whats his fav position?

no it's not cheating.

Answer 22

I completely agree with Mary. Porn is cheating. It may not pe in a physical sense but in an emotional and spiritual sense it is cheating. It could even be viewed as physical cheating because (eventhough its not with a person) he is touching himself and getting off to it. I caught my husband a few times and gave him the options Mary talks about.....
I would give him 2 options, the porn, or me... he would have to stop or it would be over... divorce would be an option if he refused to stop watching it...

After I caught him he quit for a few weeks then started again. After the third time I told him if it EVER happened again then he was gone!

It's morally wrong, to watch porn, in my opinion... The Bible says it's wrong for a person to look upon someone else with lust. If he really loves you then he can control his urges and wait until you are ready to have sex. A number of times i have wanted to have sex and my hubby doesnt want to but I dont go watching porn. I just say darn it and do something else to keep me occupied.

Answer 23

i would turn the TV off and show him that its better to make pron than watch and unleash my inner freak yes it cheating because it is lusting after a women thats not ur wife but i would not get mad that between him and allah

Answer 24

unplug the tv

Answer 25

as a guy there is nothing wrong with watching porn. We need visual stimulation when our wife/girlfriend is out of town on business or has her period or has a headache etc, our bodies don't stop pumping out hormones just because they can't have sex with us.

Guys are going to masterbate regardless, so it shouldn't matter if they are watching porn, reading erotic novels or thinking about whatever they want to think about.

I am sure all the ladies here would rather their man watch porn than to seek sex elsewhere.

Answer 26

SO Did you get caught??? Huh Huh Huh?, Well, I look at it two ways.... Why do you have to look at it if you have a wife, your wife's thought is, ISN"T she enough???
IF you are not addicted to it, It could help also get some "SPICE" back into your love life,

Now my husband says, OMG, She isn't here with me, she is just on the page....But it does make some women upset so try to see it from her view point also.

Answer 27

I would burn all my langerie infront of him. And let him know im not getting anymore. If his porn is more important, then he can have is 'jolly time' with his hand.

Answer 28

Its basic curiosity, men can compartimelise in such a way that genuinely is separate from you and your relationship.
And please dont tell these other girls to urge their partners to 'let' them know. What is your man supposed to say - "Honey I love you, by the way Im watching some porn later on. Have a good night 'kay?" Common!

Its an intimate, and private moment, porn, erotic novels, or simply thinking about sex. Its not something most men will share. Besides telling you when they watched porn will only trigger you to go to the computer and snoop around, since at that point the only question left in their minds is "What kinf of porn?".

Ladies if you are so insecure about your relationship in such way that some electronic bimbo's web site will make you think of divorce, I say he is better off moving on. The next thing from there will be the 'hot' girl in the office - "Do you think of her too?" you ask - a look at someone random in the street. Pretty soon you will be picking even on the way their dressed, if it looks too good he has something going on, if all these are divorce material offenses I say find some therapy of your own. You have more issues than your man.

Enjoy his sex drive, celebrate the genuine relationship you have, and forget about these details, at one point you will be curious as well, and have private moment online that you dont want your man finding out. Chances are, you already have.

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Personal experience.

Answer 29

If I had a husband still, no I would not consider it cheating. I used to buy him Playboy subscriptions. As long as it wasn't freakish porn, I'd watch it with him and enjoy. It's natural to want to look, and I think it's okay.

To me, cheating is when one person becomes physically or emotionally involved with another. To get hot watching some actresses on a DVD, who cares? It fiction and fantasy.

I don't care where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home for dinner...if ya know what I mean? LOL