First boyfriend AND first kiss??? help?

Question

Well, there's this guy named Christian at my school and I really really like him. My best friend told me he is going to ask me out on Monday. What should I say? Do I say "yes" "okay" "sure"?? I really have no Idea.

He has experience, both with kissing and dating. I don't. What do I do if he wants to kiss me? What do I say afterwards? I don't want to embarrass myself. My friends have told me that a first kiss comes naturally. Please don't tell me this, it doesn't make it any less scary. (He knows I've never had a boyfriend or first kiss)

PS- I'm in eighth grade in case that matters for whatever reason.

Answer 1

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If you want to date him and want to kiss him, read on. Otherwise, just say no and walk away from him if he continues to pressure you. Don't be afraid to rat him out to a teacher if he continues, that happens to be called sexual harassment.

Now, if you want to hook up with him...

So what if he has experience? He's coming to you, not the other way around, which gives you the advantage. Just keep a cool head and remember, no matter how certain he looks, he's probably just as nervous (if not more so) than you are.

Also, you can always do some quick research. My first kiss ended horribly because I had no clue what to do and just stood there with my mouth open, feeling numb. (But I'm a guy and the expectations are a little bit higher for us.)

A few pointers: Kissing is not just lip-to-lip! Make your tongue do "tricks" inside of his mouth (lick his teeth, tongue, etc. in loops.) The more frantic the motion, the more nerve endings in his mouth that you'll hit, for greater effect. Also, stop kissing at random points, and lick his upper lip. Nibble (don't bite) on various parts of his mouth. So on.

Make sure you take good care of your teeth, brushing and flossing. You don't want him to gag after kissing you, or come away chewing whatever it was you had for dinner the night before. Final tip: Try eating chocolate right before kissing him. It's a natural aphrodisiac that tastes good to boot, so he definitely won't be coming away in a bored state.

Also, you're a young, cute girl. That pretty much guarantees that even if you completely flop the first kiss, he won't mind. And you'll be able to practice after that first time. ^_^ Hope this helps.

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Answer 2

just go with the flow ! it comes naturally

Answer 3

Just relax your lips, stick them out and he will do the kissing, and just go along with it. Then you will see its not hard.

Answer 4

so u'll feel all dry ard ur lips wen it comes to a first kiss
but if he's a gentleman he wont impose dat on u
if he force himself
by all means kick his groin

Answer 5

I remember my first kiss. It was awful. The guy (without warning) just whirled around and kissed me and I swear to god I thought he was going to swallow my whole entire head! Don't let this happen to you. prepare yourself if you think he wants to kiss you, and in that moment decide whether you are ready,if your not thats ok,ya know. Don't let him if you don't want to,your first kiss should be on your terms ,not his.

Answer 6

You tell "yes". You said you really like him so, that,s it.

Answer 7

Any of "yes", "okay", or "sure" would be great. Let yourself smile when you say it so that he knows you like him back. Be confident in yourself.

As far as kissing, don't worry about it. Don't try to do anything "advanced." Just do what feels good. People kiss because lips are very sensitive and fun to touch together, but really humans were made for kissing. It's in your DNA. You'll figure it out. In reality, no middle schooler is experienced with kissing. He's new to it just like you are. Have fun.

Answer 8

just calm down and just let it happen and it really comes naturally!! good luck

Answer 9

If you like this guy, say yes. If you just want to have your first kiss with anyone just to get that first kiss out of the way, don't go. The kissing will not be very good. Kissing will be good if you like this guy. There is no guarantee that he will be a good kisser. The best thing you can do is to relax your lips somewhat. Just have him kiss you lightly. Don't let him push his tongue into your mouth if you aren't ready for that. Kiss him lightly at first. Or kiss him on his cheeks and around his mouth lightly. You will need to pucker your lips in a relaxed pucker at first and make sure your lips aren't really dry. As you relax more, you can loosen your lips more and maybe even open your mouth a little. Make sure you make good contact with your lips against his.

Answer 10

Believe me no one can & no one will have to teach you how to do ,"Doing the what comes naturally"(title of a song from way back)Just relax , be cool & self confident, you'll know what to do if you go out with him. Who says you will want to go out with him. He would be a really lucky dude if you said yes .

Answer 11

well, if he knows your situation, hopefully he will be nice and guide you through it............good luck!

Answer 12

You're going to be nervous no matter what hun. That's what experience is all about. New experiences can be awesome. Just go into it with enthusiasm. you'll get it figured out no sweat.