Is a threesome wrong for married people?

Question

we both like the thought of it something with no strings attached anybody got any ideas. My wife wants 2 men and me 2 women but were worried about how we will feel afterwards

Answer 1

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me and my husband has done it before we like it is something fun to do to spice it up in the bed room but talk to your wife and talk about the thing that can do and not do hope you have fun good luck

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Answer 2

Don't do it it will be the end of your marriage,you'll wish you hadn't done it.

Answer 3

I did 2 men 1 woman 3somes few times, with my g/f and with a married couple, and I learned that at least this type of 3some, when 2 men are doing 1 lady brings the couple closer to each other than the usual 1 male 1 female sex. But it needs good 3rd partner and good sense of humor.

Answer 4

Gosh!!
What's the point in getting married?
You are not enough for each other, you still want to play the field. You're just very mentally disturbed the two of you!
Get a divorce and then have as much fun as you want.
It'd make more sense!

Answer 5

as long as you both go into this with open minds & you are both 100 percent sure .you should have no probs but remember once its done its done forever good luck both of you

Answer 6

greedy

Answer 7

This kind of activity should be for unmarried people. That way if it gets weird, which it probably will, you can split with no strings attached.
Marriage is a sacred commitment, Don't undermine your vows.

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wife/mom/grandmom

Answer 8

I love my husband dearly, I treasure him very much, how can I bear seeing him in the arms of some stranger? How can I give myself to some stranger? If you love someone very much, the thought of them speaking to some stranger kills you, let alone doing them!! I don't think this thought crosses the mind of any couple who treasure each other, if you really have respect for each other you'd not think about such a thing. Maybe you think it would spice up your life and it might be true, but then the pain and the flashbacks you'd get afterwards would be too much to handle, every time you'd see your wife you'd see her in some strangers arms, you can never see her the way you do now. Please don't do it, for the sake of your marriage, please don't ever think about it, your marriage is a sacred commitment, don't pollute it with such thoughts, spice up your sex together, not with the help of others. No matter how boring your sex life might seem to you now, you'd look back with so much regret and sadness should you go ahead with that dreadful thought. Please please, go and cuddle your wife and live happily ever after with each other. God bless you.

Answer 9

Whatever floats your boat....If you like it then I love it. Have fun but don't ask question afterwards and make sure both of you are mature enough for it because it can ruin your relationship. I would advise going to an exotic island and renaming yourself to do that!

Answer 10

ok as long as you bth agree and totally committed to each other n trust the other wont fall in love with another guy or that you wont look crap in bed when she has two others to compare you to.risky i'd say

Answer 11

You may like the thought of it, but the thought of DIVORCE afterwards may be a LOVE when it's over!!

Answer 12

why the hell are you together and why did you promise to be with each other FOREVER if both of you aren't smart enough to measure up to your friggen promises?

Answer 13

It is if either one of you is insecure. It will ruin things. If you're both open to it and know in your hearts and mojo that it's cool then go for it.

Answer 14

Yes it is wrong. The only people that should be in your bed is you and your wife. Why do you need someone else? Try toys instead

Answer 15

If you'd like to worry about your spouse liking someone else better and cheating on you, nah there is nothing wrong with it. If you'd like to worry about your marriage falling apart, nope nothing wrong with it.

Marriage is supposed to be about the two of you loving each other and keeping yourself to only each other. Not sharing with other people. There is never a no strings attached 3some. One of you will always think about it. Even if the other person doesn't ever come back or you never see them again, it will emotionally and mentally mess with your mind.

Answer 16

First of all, if you are worried to begin with, it must be a bad idea. Think of the after effects. (Pardon the pun) If you really think that something negative is going to come out of doing this, then why do it?

My opinion is, if you are married, you have found the love of your life. Why in the hell would you want to look elsewhere?

Good luck and have a great night.

Answer 17

Fun for a moment - disaster for a lifetime! Too close to the edge, I would not venture that way! Good luck with your decision!

Answer 18

I have never done this. You better have a SERIOUSLY strong relationship if that's what you plan on. And you better have a really good sex life with each other already. What if they guy that's doing her is WAY better than you? What if she acts totally different with him than she does with you? And vice versa. Is your wife gonna freak if you can't contain your excitement with this other girl? Is she going to nag you for the rest of your existence about it? You need to really think about this first.

Answer 19

Aren't you the same guy who said you thought you were at the end of your marriage?

Big mistake. Ka-boom. Don't do it.

Answer 20

I think it will only bring trouble. What if your wife enjoys the other person more then you right in front of you? How could you not get jealous? I think that they can ruin marriages. Be very careful. If you have any doubt then forget it.

Answer 21

i think it would be great if my man and i and another man had a 3 some. I think that would feel hot and something i have always wanted. As long as both men are straight of coarse.

Answer 22

That would really change your marriage a lot. But wait, you will be in on her with the other two men, or how will all of that work? Either way, doesn't sound like a good idea.

Answer 23

dont do it

Answer 24

Oh dear oh dear...

Answer 25

If you have enough enough trust then go for it. Most likely it will spice things up for quite awhile.

Answer 26

Bad idea for us because it is likely another man would be better endowed than me and I have enough insecurities there as it is. You may just want to buy a porno tape with a 3some on it and save yourself trouble.

Answer 27

Well I personally think it is wrong. But you must decide yourself and face any consequences, which are not likely to be pleasant.

Answer 28

Only know that you are both looking for something outside of your marriage that neither of you is or has the ability to fulfill for the other. You are moving down the slippery slope (no pun intended) towards an irreconcilable destruction. Understand that this is not about sex - it's about unfulfilled desire and you BOTH are not willing to seek the answer with and through the other.
For future reference - what will be the next issue that you can't resolve? And the next? And the next?

Answer 29

Emm..this is something you both really want to have and have a good mind set on. Would you be opposed either way-the MMF or FFM?
My husband and I had threesomes with a really good friend of ours (male) and personally, it was something we both really wanted and enjoyed. If you do something like this, make sure it is what you both really want, otherwise you could be getting a divorce.
We had other friends who had an "open" relationship and though they were married for over 10 years, it didn't work out.
Best of luck.

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Every relationship is different, what is right for you isn't right for others.

Answer 30

yes very wrong verry very wrong and doing this around easter even worse.

Answer 31

my wife could'nt do 3 sums