It hurts so much.i cant do this anymore :(?

Question

im giving up.i am going to give up this month if this isnt my month. i am 22 years i old and me and my husband have been trying for a baby for 6 years and its never happened.i am sick of the pain and seeing my hubby hurting because we cant make a baby. we both cry everytime my period comes, every month i get all the symptoms but its never the real deal. does anyone else feel like they are going to give up soon? i just cant keep doing this any more , its driving me crazy. all i wanted was to be a mother and i cant even do it. goodluck everyonetrying for a baby i wish getting pregnant wasnt so hard. im outta yahoo answers for good.maybe il get pregnant once i give up like everyone keeps telling me. im not going to stop the unprotected sex im just going to stop thinking and trying.

Answer 1

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Have you been to a doctor to determine if both of you are capable? Have you considered fertility drugs? In vitro?

If you're ready to give up at this point, you may want to consider NOT having children, unless you're considering "giving up" on them when things don't go the way you want them to if you have them.

Answer 2

I hear your pain. I know people who have gone through a lot trying to conceive or with trouble carrying, but a lot of them eventually did get pregnant and give birth. I also know there are a lot of kids out there who need and want a home and don't have one. Don't give up. You can have a family, and the quality of your home will have way less to do with whether the kids all have your genes than how you love them and each other. I bet you will be a great mom.

Answer 3

there are times in your cycle that is the perfect time to get pregnant and also it may be one of you that's having problems, have you both gotten checked whether you are both able to conceive? Also there are treatments out there that may help.

Answer 4

Time to see a Doctor and figure out if there is a problem with one or both of you in the "mechanical department". Don't give up, don't ever give up...... Jimmy V.

Answer 5

I pray that God bless you with a child
you can always adopt one of the little ones who are ignored though.
blood doesnt make you a mother, love does

Answer 6

Why do you want a baby? Once you have a baby it's all about it. You are only 22. You haven't really had a chance to enjoy life yourself and you want to bring a baby into your life? You don't even know how to handle emotions. You are not quite grown. You both cry? It's driving you crazy? Sick of the pain? Come on now. You are going to raise a baby and you are an emotional wreck already with no serious dilemma.
Isn't the love between you and your husband enough? Children are financial burdens, emotional burdens, time consumers. What is so great about having a child especially in todays sick society?
A child is on the verge of death once it is born. It is condemned to a life of suffering from the getgo.
Many relationships fail after a child is born. Which could lead you to be a single mother and your husband with 18 yrs of child support.

Answer 7

surely you have been to see a doctor about this, if not i think you should start considering adopting a child, you seem to want it so badly and I'm sure you will be a great mother. once you have seen a doctor and figured out the problem, you have to move on and consider other ways of carrying out your mission to be a mother. remember there are millions of children who are born to mothers who don't even care about new life and the joy it brings, when you find one path is blocked move onto the next for Gods sake...