• Why would he deliberately try to hurt me and then say I should be grateful?

    Went on some dates with this guy he went home to Croatia from (America) to see his family and his mother had set him up on a date with a runway model, the typical 6ft tall lanky plain kind of model that has the height and weight to get booked. Anyway, he wined and dined her and booked her a ticket to come to see him in America. He tried to keep me... show more
    Went on some dates with this guy he went home to Croatia from (America) to see his family and his mother had set him up on a date with a runway model, the typical 6ft tall lanky plain kind of model that has the height and weight to get booked. Anyway, he wined and dined her and booked her a ticket to come to see him in America. He tried to keep me around while dating her as well and I said no. I then told him not to contact me again. I went 2 months without speaking to him until out of the blue he calls me and says he cant stop thinking about me and he would chose me over her and made a mistake. I told him I found that hard to believe and that the girl probably met someone else or decided not to come to America. He said that was flat out not true and that nothing changed. We went on a date a week later and he was in a horrendous mood. I asked him what was wrong and he said "Marija decided not to come to America and cancelled her ticket today, shes been pulling away from me for weeks, im devastated." I said "so you did call me for a back up plan because she cancelled" He had the nerve to say "she was my first choice yes but you need to see the glass as half full not empty, now you get a chance with me and she probably wont come back so that's good news for you, if she does we'll play it by ear" Why would he deliberately con me into going on a date if he knew he was doing exactly what I predicted that made me not want to be around him?
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 12 months ago
  • Do you think he will ever choose a woman or is it likely that he will remain a bachelor?

    He's 39, incredibly attractive, smart and business savvy. The only downside is that he has a tiny package, about the size of my thumb but a little thicker. He has been single for 10 years. He and I really hit it off and he started to let his guard down but then quickly put it back up. His first true love broke his heart 10 years back and he has... show more
    He's 39, incredibly attractive, smart and business savvy. The only downside is that he has a tiny package, about the size of my thumb but a little thicker. He has been single for 10 years. He and I really hit it off and he started to let his guard down but then quickly put it back up. His first true love broke his heart 10 years back and he has been afraid to move on and let go. Since then he has had about 6-8 women in a rotation that he throws attention to and then withdraws from. Most of these women are big time catches some of them are women who are easy and kind of on the trashier side, the kind you'd find in a bar brawl fighting with a beer in one hand and a dozen photos of themselves in bras with snapchat filters on their facebook. He treats the prominent/socialite type women who are his colleagues, wealthy friends all very well, traveling with them, promoting their businesses, treating them to fancy dinners, going to retreats with them etc. Then he treats the women he sees as lesser to take out food, weekend trips, a lot of sex and running errands with them giving them small things like flowers etc. The crazy thing is that its blatantly obvious to met from the outside that he is playing these women all at the same time, feeding them all the same empty promises, yet none of them leave him. This same group of women have been in his rotation for a year or more at this point. Do some women just not care? Will he ever choose one of them? Or will he likely remain single?
    5 answers · Psychology · 1 year ago
  • Did she like my photo in an attempt to get my attention or is it more likely that it was just by chance?

    I broke things off with a woman that I was interested in because she seemed like she wanted to keep her options open at the time. I haven't spoken to her in nearly 7 months and to make a clean break I removed and blocked her from social media as well as my cell phone. She lives in Hawaii and I live in Nashville, TN. Somehow every once in a while... show more
    I broke things off with a woman that I was interested in because she seemed like she wanted to keep her options open at the time. I haven't spoken to her in nearly 7 months and to make a clean break I removed and blocked her from social media as well as my cell phone. She lives in Hawaii and I live in Nashville, TN. Somehow every once in a while a close friend of hers likes a photo of mine on instagram. I never met any of her friends, we only went on 3 dates and knew each other for a few months before breaking things off. She will like artsy photos like ones I take in the city and a nice sunset photo that I took in Aspen. I don't have much of a social media presence at all, I maybe go on once every other week. I was never connected to the girl I dated or any of her friends on instagram. How would she randomly find my photo that only close friends liked, when she is in Hawaii and what are the odds someone with no common friends sees my photo online by chance. She typically likes my photos 1 week after I post them and she has done this 6x now.
    2 answers · Psychology · 1 year ago
  • What do you think of girls who post videos online of the road while they are driving and listening to music?

    The girl is in her mid twenties.
    The girl is in her mid twenties.
    3 answers · Polls & Surveys · 2 years ago
  • What's a good amount of time to wait to ask a woman out after she breaks off an engagement?

    She broke off an engagement with her fiance last month, they were together for 2 years. I am very interested in her but I want to allow her some time to herself to heal and work through her issues so she can be approached with a clean slate. I know there is no set time but what is a safe amount of time to let lapse before I pursue her?
    She broke off an engagement with her fiance last month, they were together for 2 years. I am very interested in her but I want to allow her some time to herself to heal and work through her issues so she can be approached with a clean slate. I know there is no set time but what is a safe amount of time to let lapse before I pursue her?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Why would a guy prefer a high maintenance woman to one that's down to earth?

    I was very interested in this guy and he seemed to be very invested in me. He suddenly dropped me out of the blue and cut me off cold. Less than a week later he is following this woman around like a lost puppy. I looked on his Instagram and he is now following very similar accounts to her and posting content that would appeal to her. He is... show more
    I was very interested in this guy and he seemed to be very invested in me. He suddenly dropped me out of the blue and cut me off cold. Less than a week later he is following this woman around like a lost puppy. I looked on his Instagram and he is now following very similar accounts to her and posting content that would appeal to her. He is essentially acting as a chameleon and changing himself to impress her. She is a wealthy west coast girl who was raised with the silver spoon type lifestyle. She has 3 Instagram accounts and each one has over 3,000 followers. She posts overly edited photos of her tea, her $250 leather sandals, her drinking wine, her lux 500k house that she somehow owns at 23 and she puts philosophical explanations under every using every big word a person could conjure up. She also regularly posts videos of her teas and smoothies while she is driving on the highway at high speeds. She's one of those women that thinks she's a hippy that is low maintenance but is wearing $200 Lulu lemon leggings, designer leather boots, oversized 60s style round sunglasses that cost $300 while blogging on the beach in California about how self made she is. Why would a down to earth guy from a small town go for a woman like that?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Why do men abuse some women but treat others like queens?

    I met this guy who seemed to be very interested in me. On his Facebook he has a lot of female friends who he treats and comments to very respectfully. He has photos of them at plays, operas and fine dining restaurants. Doing things like apple picking and swimming at lakes, having picnics etc. These women consistently hang out with him or date him... show more
    I met this guy who seemed to be very interested in me. On his Facebook he has a lot of female friends who he treats and comments to very respectfully. He has photos of them at plays, operas and fine dining restaurants. Doing things like apple picking and swimming at lakes, having picnics etc. These women consistently hang out with him or date him and have been in his life for years. He treats them with respect. He met me and spent months telling me how much he was interested in me. Then when we hung out he pulled his car over, took his clothes off and said he wanted sex. I didnt want sex, after that he never spoke to me again. When I asked him why he said it was because we had no chemistry and to get over myself. Im not saying this in a mean way but the women he is nice to are all wealthy women in their late 20s early 30s who are the type of girls you'd see at coachella, the hippy type, only they pay $500-$600 for their outfits and drive around in mercedes SUVs etc. The high maintenance, coffee shop, yoga, $200 pair of lulu lemon leggings wearing, trust fund type women. Im a down to earth girl, I work for everything I have and I have been told by many people that Im beautiful and have that girl next door charm. Why would he treat me like garbage and treat them like queens. If he is capable of not being cruel and treating other women like objects. It makes me feel horrible. I never gave him the impression that I was easy, we had deep conversations
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Have you ever let a friend log onto your Facebook account to check up on an ex?

    If you are friends with one of your good friends ex partner on Facebook and your friend no longer has them on their account, have you ever let your friend log into your account to spy on an ex?
    If you are friends with one of your good friends ex partner on Facebook and your friend no longer has them on their account, have you ever let your friend log into your account to spy on an ex?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • What does it mean when a guy tells you that your breasts are nurturing?

    We were kissing and being intimate for the first time and I took my top off and he looked at me and said "wow, your breasts are very nurturing".
    We were kissing and being intimate for the first time and I took my top off and he looked at me and said "wow, your breasts are very nurturing".
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • I told a guy that I was seeing that I had been abused in the past and now he's gone silent. What now?

    We had been talking for months and had amazing chemistry. We had an amazing date and he seemed very nervous as if he wanted to be sure to impress me. When he went to move my hair aside while we were at the lake on a boat, I flinched and pulled away. Also when he hugged me when we were sitting on a bench eating our food I flinched again. As I have... show more
    We had been talking for months and had amazing chemistry. We had an amazing date and he seemed very nervous as if he wanted to be sure to impress me. When he went to move my hair aside while we were at the lake on a boat, I flinched and pulled away. Also when he hugged me when we were sitting on a bench eating our food I flinched again. As I have been severely physically abused and was molested as well. Many people tell me that they think I am a gorgeous woman but I know deep down inside that I am very damaged from being abused. I am incredibly sweet and hard working and kind but I have fears from my past of being hit or abused which is apparent from my jerky movements when someone comes forth with affection. After the date he told me he didnt think things would work out because I seemed to be creeped out by his advances. I explained to him that I was actually very into him and that I was not rejected him and explained my history to him. He told me that he thought that I was a nice girl and he wanted to learn more about what happened to me. I called him and left a voicemail trying to initiate another date, it was a brief and sweet voicemail, no drama etc. I never heard from him again and that was nearly a month ago.
    5 answers · Psychology · 2 years ago
  • If a guy says he thinks more of me than i am aware of, is that a sign he likes me or just wants sex?

    He told me that he thinks more of me than I could ever begin to know and sent me a heart, However he doesn't really talk to me too often, maybe once per day he will send a text but nothing ever evolves beyond that. For reference we are both working professionals in our late twenties.
    He told me that he thinks more of me than I could ever begin to know and sent me a heart, However he doesn't really talk to me too often, maybe once per day he will send a text but nothing ever evolves beyond that. For reference we are both working professionals in our late twenties.
    1 answer · Friends · 2 years ago
  • If a guy texts me to wish me a happy birthday, is that a sign that he is interested?

    I didnt tell him that it was my birthday, it must have appeared on facebook somehow, which I rarely log into. I got a text from him wishing me a happy birthday with a cake emoji and the celebration emoji. He also likes a lot of my photos on facebook as well, nearly all of them actually. Not photos of myself, just some of my photography albums. Yet,... show more
    I didnt tell him that it was my birthday, it must have appeared on facebook somehow, which I rarely log into. I got a text from him wishing me a happy birthday with a cake emoji and the celebration emoji. He also likes a lot of my photos on facebook as well, nearly all of them actually. Not photos of myself, just some of my photography albums. Yet, when he has texted me in the past Ive tried to keep the conversation going and it usually takes him between hours to a few days to respond. We are both in our early thirties for reference. I have tried to make plans to hang out with him, he asked me what my availability was and I told him but we never made plans, he didnt follow up to the text.
    2 answers · Friends · 3 years ago
  • If a guy ignores my texts is it time to move on?

    I'm 31 and hes 37 so it seems as though we are a bit too old for games. He has the read receipt turned on for texts and the message was read. I asked him a direct question. I have tried to make plans with him to hang out in the past but he has been flaky. I don't understand why people say they want to hang out as if its the standard... show more
    I'm 31 and hes 37 so it seems as though we are a bit too old for games. He has the read receipt turned on for texts and the message was read. I asked him a direct question. I have tried to make plans with him to hang out in the past but he has been flaky. I don't understand why people say they want to hang out as if its the standard response, just to make conversation, if they have no real intention of hanging out. I texted him at 3pm its now nearly midnight. He doesnt work on weekends.. He has been on and off facebook all evening, commenting on posts and responding to other people. I know this question seems immature, but honestly, it takes less than a minute to send someone a response and he has been on facebook all night.I deleted his phone number and the text thread, should I also delete him off of facebook and just move on? I'm not the type of person who is a friend collector, either you are a sincere person who actually wants to interact in real life or I have no interest in maintaining any kind of online pleasantries.
    2 answers · Friends · 3 years ago
  • My boyfriend refused to speak to a male who is harassing me, should I break up with him?

    Everyday I get multiple harassing phone calls from a guy who says he is a job recruiter. I have blocked over a dozen phone numbers from him. He continues to fill my voicemail daily. He is always calling from a new number. I asked him to stop calling. My boyfriend is more authoritative and has a deep voice that commands attention. I pleaded with him... show more
    Everyday I get multiple harassing phone calls from a guy who says he is a job recruiter. I have blocked over a dozen phone numbers from him. He continues to fill my voicemail daily. He is always calling from a new number. I asked him to stop calling. My boyfriend is more authoritative and has a deep voice that commands attention. I pleaded with him to please answer and tell the guy to stop harassing me as I m fed up. This guy calls me at all hours. I am even on the do not call list. My boyfriend said "your a big girl deal with the harassment and just delete the voicemails as they come in, he ll eventually give up."
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 3 years ago
  • Why would my ex cut me off cold turkey and never speak to me in 10+ yrs but remain friends and open to friendship with all of his other ex's?

    My high school sweetheart and I had a whirlwind kind of romance. I was his first.he pursued me and was infatuated with me as was I with him almost immediately. We did the typical things teenagers in love for the first time do like talk about getting married, getting a puppy, having kids someday, where we would live etc. We would lay in bed listening... show more
    My high school sweetheart and I had a whirlwind kind of romance. I was his first.he pursued me and was infatuated with me as was I with him almost immediately. We did the typical things teenagers in love for the first time do like talk about getting married, getting a puppy, having kids someday, where we would live etc. We would lay in bed listening to music and talking for hours. I had a very abusive home life and I had been sexually abused since the age of 8 by my mothers boyfriend. He was actually jealous of my bf and he had physically abused me and told me I was not to go to the school dance with my bf and to break up with him. I told him I didn't want to go to the jr. prom but didn't want to break up with him. Eventually he left me after 1 yr of dating. Its been well over 10 years and he never spoke to me again despite several attempts on my part over the years.He has since dated many women who the relationships have ended but he keeps in contact with and remains friendly with (we have mutual acquaintances). Why would he cut me off cold turkey and never want to see or speak to me again?
    2 answers · Psychology · 3 years ago
  • I got rejected and I feel so embarrassed, should I delete the guy off of social media?

    im in my late twenties and he's in his early thirties. I was out at a fancy bar in NYC with a friend and we met a group of people and we all hit it off. We talked all night and then went out to eat together afterward. We have the same career and similar passions so we really enjoyed each others company. This guy and I added each other on... show more
    im in my late twenties and he's in his early thirties. I was out at a fancy bar in NYC with a friend and we met a group of people and we all hit it off. We talked all night and then went out to eat together afterward. We have the same career and similar passions so we really enjoyed each others company. This guy and I added each other on Facebook as I live in CT 1.5 hours away from him in NYC, within the first week that we were friends he liked just about everything I put up online, whether it be a status or one of my photos. I messaged him and said that I enjoyed meeting him and that it would be great to hang out again, he read it within 15 minutes, its been a week and he has not replied or said anything to me at all. We met at the beginning of the month and he seemed to be very into me.
    4 answers · Singles & Dating · 3 years ago
  • Why would he flirt with me and then completely ignore me?

    im in my late twenties and he's in his early thirties. I was out at a fancy bar in NYC with a friend and we met a group of people and we all hit it off. We talked all night and then went out to eat together afterward. We have the same career and similar passions so we really enjoyed each others company. This guy and I added each other on... show more
    im in my late twenties and he's in his early thirties. I was out at a fancy bar in NYC with a friend and we met a group of people and we all hit it off. We talked all night and then went out to eat together afterward. We have the same career and similar passions so we really enjoyed each others company. This guy and I added each other on Facebook as I live in CT 1.5 hours away from him in NYC, within the first week that we were friends he liked just about everything I put up online, whether it be a status or one of my photos. I messaged him and said that I really enjoyed meeting him and that it would be great to hang out again, he read it within 15 minutes, its been a week and he has not replied or said anything to me at all. We met at the beginning of the month.
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 3 years ago
  • Is this a sign that he may still have feelings for me or a sign that he hates me?

    My ex boyfriend told his friend that he was not allowed to bring me on a date. His friend pursued me out of the blue. My ex and I were together over 8 years ago for less than 1 year. He pursued me and lost his virginity to me. We were both in a puppy love type state of mind. I was having issues at home and he lost his mother to an unexpected... show more
    My ex boyfriend told his friend that he was not allowed to bring me on a date. His friend pursued me out of the blue. My ex and I were together over 8 years ago for less than 1 year. He pursued me and lost his virginity to me. We were both in a puppy love type state of mind. I was having issues at home and he lost his mother to an unexpected illness. He cut ties with me immediately after the passing of his mother which was in July '07 and resented me for taking up his time with dating and hanging out when he could have spent his final months with his mom. He never spoke to me again and ignored messages from me spread out over the years on Facebook but never blocked me or told me off.One day out of the blue his best friend Dan whom Id met only briefly 10 years ago randomly messaged me online and said that he thought I was beautiful and wanted to bring me out to dinner. Apparently Dan ran it by my ex and my ex became very persistent that he absolutely did not want him to have anything to do with me and that he would never want to have to run in the same circles with me and told him not to bring me on a date, which resulted in Dan canceling the dinner date. We were 16 when we dated and haven't crossed paths or even spoken since.
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 3 years ago