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  • Should I just quit? ?

    Although I'm very grateful that I have a job and I like doing the things that I'm doing, I feel like crap working there. I don't feel like I belong there. I don't feel like I can trust anyone. I'm a hard worker & I don't feel like anything I do is even really appreciated & when people do thank me, I don't even feel like I can believe it. Also, there's this whole thing with this guy that I love. That's a long story, but he's really toxic & part of me just wants to quit & walk away from it all. I don't want to, but I just feel so hurt, I don't know what to do. I've been there for more than 6 years now. I used to smile all the time & now I just feel so completely emotionally broken by the people who work there & the customers. I switched depts in hopes that it would be better & it wasn't & is maybe even worse. I just worry that no place else will be better either. I just don't know what to do. Please help. Thank you 

    13 AnswersMental Health9 months ago
  • Why does the universe give you people that you love so much, but they don't love you? ?

    I just don't understand how I can love someone so much & feel so connected to him & like I belong with him, but he doesn't feel the same. 

    5 AnswersSingles & Dating12 months ago
  • Why can't you buy I Love Lucy to watch online?

    I have the DVDs, but I like watching it on my phone better. Why do they only put The Best of episodes, but not the whole seasons to watch on Amazon Prime or even to buy anywhere?

    3 AnswersDrama1 year ago
  • Will giving him a birthday present make him come back to me?

    There's this guy that I love who doesn't love me & who told me to move on. It's been a couple of months & it was just his birthday. A friend at work told me that I should give him a present/card & act like I've been busy & give it some time & he'll come back & give me a chance. I did that. He hasn't said anything yet. Will this work?

    5 AnswersSingles & Dating1 year ago
  • Is ever having a relationship too good to be true?

    I want to be married someday, but sometimes it seems like it'll never happen or I can't picture it because everyone just wants to use me for whatever & I never get a chance. Then I wonder if maybe my dreams are too good to ever come true & maybe I'm just meant to be alone or something. I don't know.

    1 AnswerSingles & Dating1 year ago
  • Why do I have to be my best self in order to be in a relationship?

    To me, having to look my best for someone to love me is really superficial. Having to be confident & happy & personally fulfilled for someone to love me is unrealistic. I m not always going to be happy & perfect. To me, if I have to be that way in order for you to love me, then you re not for me. What are you going to do in the tough times of life? Leave me because I m not happy? No thanks. But all of these articles tell you that you have to be your best self in order to be in a relationship. Maybe it s just something that they put out there as a "don t think about yourself being rejected, just focus on yourself" kind of thing. I don t know, but I don t get it & I don t like it.

    2 AnswersSingles & Dating1 year ago
  • If he doesn't like white women, then why was he interested in me at all?

    I love this guy & I've tried to be with him for some years now, but he would never give me a chance. He just said that we're too different/we're into different things & I never got an explanation about that. I had sex with him over the years after he pressured me into it, but then I see him posting on Facebook about how he doesn't like white women & he says other things about white people sometimes & I just wonder if that's true, then why did he want so much to have sex with me? Why was he interested in me at all? He also says stuff about me being vegan & skinny & sometimes I wonder if maybe he's just not ready for a relationship yet because he's been hurt in the past. Or maybe he doesn't have a problem with these things, it's just that his family & friends do & he feels like he has to follow what they want or something. I don't know. I just think that it's ridiculous to rule someone out because of their skin color or size or eating habits or whatever when we otherwise get along great & I love him so much, so, it doesn't make sense to me. Like if you don't like those things, then why not just leave me alone?

    6 AnswersSingles & Dating1 year ago
  • How do I handle having been pressured into sex?

    I wanted to wait until I was married, but he wouldn't listen to me & pressured me into it & now I don't know how to handle that because this is not how I wanted my life to be. I only wanted to be with one person & he doesn't want to be with me.

    6 AnswersSingles & Dating1 year ago
  • Why do I have to do these things in order to be loved?

    Guys that I love tell me to get a different job or a bigger apartment or a car & be a better me & go make more friends, go back to school, etc. In one case, they said that I have to do some of these things before I can be with them. In the previous case, they just said that I should do these things & I always wondered if it was a prerequisite or something. But I just want to be loved for me. Why can't they be with me now? I have things that I want to do in my life, but love is the most important thing. And now I kind of feel like I don't want to do other things because then I feel like they just like me because of those things & not because I'm myself.

    2 AnswersSingles & Dating1 year ago
  • Should I accept this job offer?

    I currently work at a grocery store where I make $12/hr in the food court. I'm part-time, but I get 40 hrs every week, thankfully. I don't have a problem with the work that I do. It's just the people - customers & employees that break my heart & disappoint me. The company doesn't really appreciate employees that much either. And sometimes everything just gets frustrating & then I hate it. I had an interview at a convenience type store, though & they gave me an offer. It's a dairy/deli type of thing & they have different things that I could learn how to make. I'm hoping that there will be less drama. But they can only give me $11.25/hr & the hrs aren't guaranteed. It's just if you're a good employee, you can get the hrs. And I am a good employee, but I just don't want to make a financially stupid decision & I worry that it won't be any better than the grocery store. The convenience store is also further away from me than the grocery store & I take the bus. Idk. I was thinking that I could keep working once a week at the grocery store just in case, but Idk. I like the idea of working at the convenience store, but I don't want to be stupid about it. Thank you for your time and consideration!

    6 AnswersOther - Careers & Employment1 year ago
  • Does he not want me to have sex with someone else?

    He wanted me to figure my life out & get over somebody else first before we went further on a relationship. I didn t want to be hanging onto a hope when he s already seeing someone else because I know that that will hold me up in my life. He said no. But then he asks or says things like was that the answer that you wanted, you ve only been with two people & the second one is me, you have something good going on down there & I wouldn t want anyone else to have it, you don t have to date around/give it up to somebody just make some friends, etc. What does this mean?

    7 AnswersSingles & Dating1 year ago
  • Why do I feel so strongly that I belong with him, but he doesn t like me?

    I feel comfortable & at peace with him. We vibe well together & have similar opinions on important topics like religion, politics, children, music, etc. But sometimes it seems like he cares & sometimes it doesn t. I ve done so many things for him over the years & I ve kept choosing him even through all of the nonsense that he s put me through. He says that I can t have a chance with him because we re into different things, which isn t true & isn t a very good reason, but that s all he s ever said on the matter. He even dated this other woman for a few weeks that he met years before & thought was annoying, but it was time to give her a chance. Then she breaks up with him & he calls me to say that she didn t like doing things with him that are things that we do together. I don t know. I just don t get it. I just don t understand why I would feel this connection/chemistry if it s not right. And I don t understand why he would do some loving things or keep me around or anything for so long if he s not interested on some level. Sometimes I wonder if he hurts me because he s hiding his feelings from himself & me or something. I don t know. I try to discuss this with him, but he ignores me or dismisses me. But if it s not going to work out, I need to understand the why I would feel like that in order to move on & be with somebody else. Thank you for your time and consideration!

    2 AnswersSingles & Dating1 year ago
  • Where does this concept come from?

    I read this philosophy once that said something like you live a life of sorrow/pain and you live a life of happiness. Like half of your life is more one than the other and then the other half is more the other than the one and when it switches, that's when you know that your life is half over. I thought that I read it in like Eat Pray Love or A New Earth awhile ago, but I can't find it. Has anyone else read this and where? I would like to read it again. Thanks!

    3 AnswersPhilosophy4 years ago
  • What to do when your boyfriend wants you to tell your parents about the relationship, but you don't?

    I've lived quite some time, but I've never dated before. This is my first relationship and I never wanted to tell my parents about a relationship that I was in until after I was married. My family has pretty much always bothered me about not having one, and I felt like they would bother me even more once I did have one. I always just wanted to keep it a secret and then elope because I didn't want to include them in it. I wanted it to be about my relationship, my marriage, not about my family and some big extravaganza wedding. I wanted it to be just between us, without family interference. However, my boyfriend really wants me to tell them and I said that I would, but it's giving me a lot of anxiety and I really feel uncomfortable about it. What should I do? Thanks.

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating6 years ago
  • If I get rid of my TV, can I not watch online videos or movies, as well then?

    I've been thinking about getting rid of TV altogether because I'm already a minimalist in every other part of my life pretty much, but I was thinking what's the point if you still watch movies and online videos or your TV shows online after you get rid of it? What do other people do who have gotten rid of their TVs? What are the benefits of getting rid of the TV/visual media altogether? Thanks.

    5 AnswersGreen Living6 years ago
  • Question about period?

    I missed a month on my period maybe because of stress and then I lost some weight and it continued to be absent, but now I've gained back my weight and my period hasn't come back yet. This has happened once before, but it came back when I regained the weight. I was thinking that maybe it was because I was taking vitex fruit for a little while the first time? Please help! I don't like to talk to my doctor.

    1 AnswerWomen's Health7 years ago
  • Is a Secure Cash Card a good idea?

    I don't really like banks and was wondering if something like Tracfone's Secure Cash Card was a good option instead. Is it affiliated with banks? Thanks.

    2 AnswersPersonal Finance7 years ago
  • How do I help my family eat healthier?

    I've been vegan/eating a plant-based diet for quite some time now (a few years), but I hate watching my family (i.e. my parents, etc) eating unhealthy foods. It worries me because I don't want to see them get cancer and heart disease and diabetes later in life when I know that it could have been prevented. However, I don't want to force them to do something that they don't want to do. That's why I don't say anything because it should be their choice. Please help.

    Also, my mother's into deals and coupons, how can I get around this?

    11 AnswersVegetarian & Vegan7 years ago
  • Do colleges have school photos and yearbooks?

    Do they have opportunities where students can get their photo taken like in grade school and do they have yearbooks with all of the students in it? It must be rather big if about 15,000 students go to the school.