• Is there any evidence that pure talk therapy actually works?

    I really can't afford a psychologist, I'm a grad' student and my scholarship is about to run out so i should be putting money aside for while i'm writing up. But i need some help or i'm going to end up not finishing at all and on a disability pension like my brother. I'm onto my fourth psychologist this year. The first two... show more
    I really can't afford a psychologist, I'm a grad' student and my scholarship is about to run out so i should be putting money aside for while i'm writing up. But i need some help or i'm going to end up not finishing at all and on a disability pension like my brother. I'm onto my fourth psychologist this year. The first two were referrals from my family doctor who were absolute weirdoes and made me feel uncomfortable straight away by the first or second session, i just knew it wasn't going to work with them. The third tried to treat me for anxiety but was really fixated on exposure, so i just got wrapped up in being anxious about that, it honestly made me worse, things that never bothered me before got scary because i got wrapped up in thinking about how scary they were. The fourth (the current one) had some good evidenced-based stuff on her website (ACT, mindfulness, etc.) but, by the third or fourth session with her, it felt like we were still taking a history. I asked what were we going to do and she said "i'm not here to give you advice". But i can't tell what she IS there for? To her therapy seems to be just a "place to talk". I can see how that might help some people who find it hard to talk to people or don't have anyone else to talk to, people who start lots of things with "doc, i've never told this to anyone before..."? But i have two or three really close friend who i can tell anything. I find it way easier to talk to my friends than a psychologist, and i can do it for the price of a cup of coffee, or for free. They listen to me, and i listen to them, it's part of a healthy relationship. Pure talk psychology seems like some sort of prostitution, paying a fortune for something that's normally part of a reciprocal relationship. I have nothing against sex workers, i don't mean it as a slur, just i don't think i need to buy something that i'm getting for free as part of my relationships? Is there some benefit of a professional that makes it worth it? is there some way i can get more out of this? I'm willing to persist with the talk therapy if it's worth it, i can find the money if i have to, but is it actually any use, or just a huge waste of a lot of $2 minutes?
    4 answers · Mental Health · 6 years ago
  • Do you think this would fit in 20 kg suitcase?

    I'm going on a plane trip that's longer than i'm used to, normally i just fly to neighboring cities for a weekend, and longer trips i've always driven, now i'm going to another continent for over 2 weeks, and i'm not sure if i'll be able to wash in that time. would this all fit in a checked bag? 32 pairs of... show more
    I'm going on a plane trip that's longer than i'm used to, normally i just fly to neighboring cities for a weekend, and longer trips i've always driven, now i'm going to another continent for over 2 weeks, and i'm not sure if i'll be able to wash in that time. would this all fit in a checked bag? 32 pairs of panties 16 bras 18 pairs of socks (cotton knee-highs) 18 shirts (mainly long sleeved t-shirts) 12 skirts (knee to ankle length, some quite "full") something nice for dinner cruise warm grey coat [squishes to hand bag size] non-clothing items [most valuables in hand luggage, probably just a few toiletries that aren't allowed in cabin]
    2 answers · Packing & Preparation · 6 years ago
  • Can music downloaded through spotify be transferred to things like iPods?

    or it it locked into a spotify software product?
    or it it locked into a spotify software product?
    2 answers · Music & Music Players · 6 years ago
  • How can i correct this person's misconception about transition?

    someone in my family was talking about customers at their work being people who've "had a sex change operation or are just cross-dressers" how do i explain a more accurate view point, i guess i should have just said it's more about hormone treatments? but that doesn't quite explain it? or does it? also they kept talking... show more
    someone in my family was talking about customers at their work being people who've "had a sex change operation or are just cross-dressers" how do i explain a more accurate view point, i guess i should have just said it's more about hormone treatments? but that doesn't quite explain it? or does it? also they kept talking and i couldn't get a word in, so also, how do i bring it up again?
    2 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 6 years ago
  • How can i make showers less daunting and more enjoyable?

    How can i make bath-time less unpleasant? How can i make showers more fun? other people seem to enjoy a nice shower? why's that? what are they doing that i'm not? i'm like a little kid, i hate bath-time and i keep playing on computer all night procrastinating about it, how can i make it more fun? i could buy pretty scented shower... show more
    How can i make bath-time less unpleasant? How can i make showers more fun? other people seem to enjoy a nice shower? why's that? what are they doing that i'm not? i'm like a little kid, i hate bath-time and i keep playing on computer all night procrastinating about it, how can i make it more fun? i could buy pretty scented shower gels but i already do that. I could buy MORE and prettier scented shower gels... any other ideas though?
    3 answers · Psychology · 6 years ago
  • How can i make bath-time less unpleasant?

    How can i make showers more fun? other people seem to enjoy a nice shower? why's that? what are they doing that i'm not? i'm like a little kid, i hate bath-time and i keep playing on computer all night procrastinating about it, how can i make it more fun? i could buy pretty scented shower gels but i already do that... hrm...
    How can i make showers more fun? other people seem to enjoy a nice shower? why's that? what are they doing that i'm not? i'm like a little kid, i hate bath-time and i keep playing on computer all night procrastinating about it, how can i make it more fun? i could buy pretty scented shower gels but i already do that... hrm...
    4 answers · Other - Beauty & Style · 6 years ago
  • How can i make showers more fun?

    other people seem to enjoy a nice shower? why's that? what are they doing that i'm not? i'm like a little kid, i hate bath-time and i keep playing on computer all night procrastinating about it, how can i make it more fun? i could buy pretty scented shower gels but i already do that... hrm...
    other people seem to enjoy a nice shower? why's that? what are they doing that i'm not? i'm like a little kid, i hate bath-time and i keep playing on computer all night procrastinating about it, how can i make it more fun? i could buy pretty scented shower gels but i already do that... hrm...
    4 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 6 years ago
  • Do you think this sounds truthful?

    "I'm not trying to seduce you. :) And you always tell me the truth, so I tell you the truth too. The truth, in your case, is often flattering."
    "I'm not trying to seduce you. :) And you always tell me the truth, so I tell you the truth too. The truth, in your case, is often flattering."
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 6 years ago
  • Do golf courses ever have a differential par for ladies and gentlemen?

    is there a standard par difference for ladies and men? what's a typical par difference?
    is there a standard par difference for ladies and men? what's a typical par difference?
    4 answers · Golf · 6 years ago
  • Is there anything i can do to stop people drinking this dangerously?

    Someone's invited me to a party, the plan for the party is an intricate drinking game, where it seems the typical player would end up consuming over 20 standard drinks throughout the night [aussie standard drinks i guess that's over 16 american drinks] and the goal is about 26 drinks (20 american standard drinks) I was thinking of just... show more
    Someone's invited me to a party, the plan for the party is an intricate drinking game, where it seems the typical player would end up consuming over 20 standard drinks throughout the night [aussie standard drinks i guess that's over 16 american drinks] and the goal is about 26 drinks (20 american standard drinks) I was thinking of just giving it a miss and figuring anyone who does go is an adult who can make their own choices, but i looked at the attending guests and out of 25 guests at least 5 are aged 19 to 22 [the host is in his late 20s] i now feel kinds guilty just ignoring this, it seems really creepy, 20 drinks is enough for alcohol poisoning, but i don't know how i could stop anyone getting hurt if i did go? what do i do?
    4 answers · Beer, Wine & Spirits · 6 years ago
  • Does this sound like a rape plan?

    i'm not really worried that i'm the target but i'm a bit concerned for others someone's invited me to a party, the plan for the party is an intricate drinking game, where it seems the typical player would end up consuming over 20 standard drinks throughout the night [aussie standard drinks i guess that's over 16 american... show more
    i'm not really worried that i'm the target but i'm a bit concerned for others someone's invited me to a party, the plan for the party is an intricate drinking game, where it seems the typical player would end up consuming over 20 standard drinks throughout the night [aussie standard drinks i guess that's over 16 american drinks] and the goal is about 26 drinks (20 american standard drinks) I was thinking of just giving it a miss and figuring anyone else who went was an adult who can make their own choices, but i looked at the attending guests and out of 25 guests at least 4 are girls aged 19 to 22 [the host is in his late 20s] i now feel kinds guilty just ignoring this, it seems really creepy (even if not for the assault risk 20 drinks is enough for alcohol poisoning), but i don't know how i'd protect those girls if i did go. what do i do?
    10 answers · Gender & Women's Studies · 6 years ago
  • Catholics who use natural family planning?

    If sex is for reproduction why can Catholics have sex at times when conception is almost impossible? How is that "better" than having non-reproductive sex with someone of the same gender?
    If sex is for reproduction why can Catholics have sex at times when conception is almost impossible? How is that "better" than having non-reproductive sex with someone of the same gender?
    11 answers · Religion & Spirituality · 6 years ago
  • What would you call this person? what subculture?

    goes to graduate school listens to podcasts orders a decaf skinny latte at the pub uses their internet phone to look up the ingredients of vegan washing powder in the supermarket openly kisses their transsexual lesbian girlfriend at a German avant-garde concert which features more "found object percussion" than actual instruments
    goes to graduate school listens to podcasts orders a decaf skinny latte at the pub uses their internet phone to look up the ingredients of vegan washing powder in the supermarket openly kisses their transsexual lesbian girlfriend at a German avant-garde concert which features more "found object percussion" than actual instruments
    1 answer · Other - Society & Culture · 6 years ago
  • Who do you love more, your wife or your mistress?

    and why?
    and why?
    1 answer · Marriage & Divorce · 6 years ago
  • Do trans female clitorises have any erectile tissue?

    i read somewhere that they just use "skin" from the head of the penis, but that doesn't seem like it would make a very realistic and responsive clitoris? is it just an oversimplification? or do they really just use skin? do they use a bit of corpus cavernosum as well? i've heard Dr Suporn uses most of the penis to make... show more
    i read somewhere that they just use "skin" from the head of the penis, but that doesn't seem like it would make a very realistic and responsive clitoris? is it just an oversimplification? or do they really just use skin? do they use a bit of corpus cavernosum as well? i've heard Dr Suporn uses most of the penis to make vulva? but do others just discard all the erectile tissue?
    1 answer · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 6 years ago
  • Can transsexuals and "chasers" ever be "just friends"?

    there's on going debate about straight men and women being able to be friends... better or worse chances than that?
    there's on going debate about straight men and women being able to be friends... better or worse chances than that?
    6 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 6 years ago
  • Do you think the person in his photo is male or female?

    do you think this person is a man or a woman? https://fbcdn-sphotos-c-a.akamaihd.net/h...
    do you think this person is a man or a woman? https://fbcdn-sphotos-c-a.akamaihd.net/h...
    19 answers · Polls & Surveys · 6 years ago
  • Why are psychiatrists so expensive? where does that money GO?

    They charge several hundred per hour, that's more than some people make in a week. How does that work?
    They charge several hundred per hour, that's more than some people make in a week. How does that work?
    2 answers · Psychology · 6 years ago
  • Do i really need the keyboard for the windows surface?

    does the windows surface have a keyboard on the touch screen or do i need the keyboard to do any typing at all? i want to use it lying on the couch/bed for editing word documents (not lots of typing, but the odd bit here and there), i don't want to have to find a table for it to type, that sort of defeats the purpose of having a tablet.
    does the windows surface have a keyboard on the touch screen or do i need the keyboard to do any typing at all? i want to use it lying on the couch/bed for editing word documents (not lots of typing, but the odd bit here and there), i don't want to have to find a table for it to type, that sort of defeats the purpose of having a tablet.
    1 answer · Other - Hardware · 7 years ago