When I was younger, I was sexually abused by my older brother. I was 7 and he was 14. When I turned 15 my experience began to weigh heavy on me and I told my mom that my brother sexually abused me. I couldn’t help, but cry uncontrollably as it came out for the first time and my mom told me to “Stop being so dramatic”. She told all of my siblings (which I did not want her to do) and told others in the family that I was lying. She always covered for my brother through everything that he has always done. She told me that she was going to take me to get a lie detector test done as a way to scare me into letting it go. Years later I brought it back up, as it continues to effect me everyday. When I talk about it my mom purposely ignores me and fails to acknowledge anything about it. She gets upset when my responses to her about my brother aren’t so nice. My brother has always been a trouble kid and is now facing 10 years in prison for a gun charge. My mom constantly pittys him, gives him money and brings him around me when I’ve asked her on several occasions not to. She has never tried to comfort me or help me seek counseling.
If one of your children sexually abuse the other, would you be able to continue having a relationship with them? I’m now in my early 20’s and will be graduating with a Bachelor degree in January. After that, hopefully I will be able to start a life for myself. Should I let it go or confront my mom about the way I feel one more time?