• Why does my next door neibour invite herself over for coffee but then never shows up?

    Shes been doing this for 5 years . I know she is aware that she has invited herself over because one time she saw me outside in my garden and said " oh i was supposed to go to your house for coffee"....she didnt apologise. I feel like telling her to f---off but im too polite to do that. I really want to say something to her that will stop... show more
    Shes been doing this for 5 years . I know she is aware that she has invited herself over because one time she saw me outside in my garden and said " oh i was supposed to go to your house for coffee"....she didnt apologise. I feel like telling her to f---off but im too polite to do that. I really want to say something to her that will stop her behaviour without being rude to her.
    7 answers · Friends · 4 months ago
  • How to break up this cyber friendship?

    I was just having a bit of fun in a game and I made friends with someone. I like to pretend to be someone else on the internet for security reasons. Anyway I was having fun with this person and now they are being clingy. I don't want to have to leave the forum because its complicated to have to make another account. Why cant people just chill on... show more
    I was just having a bit of fun in a game and I made friends with someone. I like to pretend to be someone else on the internet for security reasons. Anyway I was having fun with this person and now they are being clingy. I don't want to have to leave the forum because its complicated to have to make another account. Why cant people just chill on the internet and not take everyone so seriously? Now what do I do I don't want to hurt anyone by saying anything too mean but they wont take a hint.
    4 answers · Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered · 4 years ago
  • Is it ok to contact your bully many years later?

    I was bullied by a girl throughout my primary and high school years....she hated me because of my ethnicity. The first time she ever saw me she turned around at her desk and pulled her tongue out at me...I still see her face and the cold hateful stare. Over the years I thought a lot about her....you never really forget someone that caused you so... show more
    I was bullied by a girl throughout my primary and high school years....she hated me because of my ethnicity. The first time she ever saw me she turned around at her desk and pulled her tongue out at me...I still see her face and the cold hateful stare. Over the years I thought a lot about her....you never really forget someone that caused you so much pain. I'm married now with kids too....I'm all grown up but I've never forgotten her. Recently I thought I'd look up people from my past on fb and there she was...I recognised her face straight away though she has a few lines and a bit of grey hair. When I saw her photo I felt sadness not hate or resentment. As I looked at all her family photos she posted on fb I started to cry......I was filled with a deep sadness. Her life looks amazing....she has a huge family and they seem so close...you can see loads of smiling happy photos. My family has broken apart over the years...I don't have many happy family photos. This may sound extremely pathetic but it hurt me that my bully has what appears to be a wonderful life. I felt that perhaps there is no such thing as karma after all. The weirdest thing is that I don't feel anger or hate towards her I just feel sad for myself because the bullying which was relentless over many years left me scarred and it left me feeling very self conscious as a person. I've had many happy times in my life but the past haunts me. I really want to let go. I wanted to contact her not to blame her but just out of curiosity to see if she even remembers me or would even acknowledge me. What do you think? It would be awesome if she could say sorry though I don't expect it....it would be weird if we ended up being friends. I'm scared she would just ignore my friend request. I'm not sure if this is a good idea but it may also help me release the pain of my past
    2 answers · Friends · 5 years ago
  • Is this a mental illness?

    Tom has a great memory...he can repeat things he has heard word for word almost. The thing is that when you ask him a question and he answers you, you get the feeling that he is just parroting something he heard and isn't really volunteering his own opinions. I'm trying to explain it as best I can here but it's difficult. He has to agree... show more
    Tom has a great memory...he can repeat things he has heard word for word almost. The thing is that when you ask him a question and he answers you, you get the feeling that he is just parroting something he heard and isn't really volunteering his own opinions. I'm trying to explain it as best I can here but it's difficult. He has to agree with what he is saying...he doesn't just quote any old thing. Usually when you are having a conversation with Tom you get the feeling that a lot of what he ways are exact excerpts from bits of information he picked up here and there then he's put it all together in his head and says that. Once I was talking to him and I picked up on two opinions he had and they were almost word for word from two different tv shows we'd watched together that week. Ok the stuff he said was relevant to the conversation but it felt like it wasn't his own stuff. Like I said it's so difficult to explain. Tom is my husband by the way.
    2 answers · Mental Health · 5 years ago
  • What to do when your mammagram doesn't come out clear?

    Ok sorry to ask so many questions but I am waiting to see my doctor next week so I just need to ease my worry and get some question prepared to ask her when I see her. I had my yearly mammagram and I read the report myself, it's ok my doctor doesn't mind....too long to esplain. Anyway, turns out my breasts are very dense and though they did... show more
    Ok sorry to ask so many questions but I am waiting to see my doctor next week so I just need to ease my worry and get some question prepared to ask her when I see her. I had my yearly mammagram and I read the report myself, it's ok my doctor doesn't mind....too long to esplain. Anyway, turns out my breasts are very dense and though they did find a simple cyst and a fatty lump of fat...they were not able to see if there were any lesions due to my dense breast tissue. So my report says that they cannot tell if there are any lesions in 75% of my breast. Now for someone like me who has already lost one breast to cancer it is pretty scary to get a mammagram that is not clear. I heard that it's not safe to have more than one mammagram per year. Can I insist that my doctor do further tests because I am not happy with the report I got from the radiology doctor. Please help me out. Thanks for your advice.
    5 answers · Cancer · 5 years ago
  • Does cancer and fatty deposits look different in an ultrasound?

    Reason why I ask is I had to have my yearly mammogram and ultrasound today. I had a masectomy last year. This year my doctor did not do a breast exam on me or check my armpits for lumps. She just referred me to have a mammagram and ultrasound on my one breast I have left. I am very disappointed that she didn't do a more thorough check prior to... show more
    Reason why I ask is I had to have my yearly mammogram and ultrasound today. I had a masectomy last year. This year my doctor did not do a breast exam on me or check my armpits for lumps. She just referred me to have a mammagram and ultrasound on my one breast I have left. I am very disappointed that she didn't do a more thorough check prior to my mammogram that way if she felt any suspicious lumps she could ask them to investigate further. i was the one who found the lump last year. I'm feeling like i'm just another number at the moment. Anyway the lady that did the ultrasound was concerned about an area in my breast that looked different but she said she thought it was fat but she'd check with a doctor. She called in the doctor and the doctor looked my breast on the screen..I was still having this ultrasound. She said it wasn't anything to worry about. Hmmm I have had pain in that area and I told her so. She just said "really?" ....that was it...she walked out. Left the door open too. The thing I hate most about this whole breast cancer thing is the uncertainty and the way medical proffesionals can be so devoid of an kind of empathy or sensitivity towards me...the patient.
    1 answer · Cancer · 5 years ago
  • Did Lance Armstrong lie about having had cancer?

    When all the news started about Lance Armstrong cheating with performance enhancement drugs, I couldn't help but wonder if he also lied about cancer. Sure the guy did raise funds for cancer research and that is a grand thing to do but it doesn't neccessarily mean that he didn't use cancer as a vehicle for his own fame. I mean this guy... show more
    When all the news started about Lance Armstrong cheating with performance enhancement drugs, I couldn't help but wonder if he also lied about cancer. Sure the guy did raise funds for cancer research and that is a grand thing to do but it doesn't neccessarily mean that he didn't use cancer as a vehicle for his own fame. I mean this guy can't seem to get enough of the limelight.....who's to say that he didn't make some deal with a shady doctor to concoct a phony cancer diagnosis. He was willing to jeopardise his whole phenomenal career by taking drugs so why not lie about cancer> ? What is your view on this> Thanks for your opinions.
    2 answers · Cancer · 5 years ago
  • Is it common for early breast cancer to mastasise?

    I'm really looking for statistics ..thanks everyone I know you are all very helpfull in this section.
    I'm really looking for statistics ..thanks everyone I know you are all very helpfull in this section.
    5 answers · Cancer · 5 years ago
  • Is it so wrong to not want to see my sister in law?

    So she invited herself and it is the worst possible time for her to be visiting. She is on holiday mode...we are on opposite mode....severe stress mode. I don't hate her I'm just angry that she didn't ask if it was ok...she just told my husband/her brother that she was coming over and even though he knows it's not the best time he... show more
    So she invited herself and it is the worst possible time for her to be visiting. She is on holiday mode...we are on opposite mode....severe stress mode. I don't hate her I'm just angry that she didn't ask if it was ok...she just told my husband/her brother that she was coming over and even though he knows it's not the best time he didn't have the heart to discourage her. Now this situation has caused endless friction between my husband and myself and it has been the cause of many a fight . We have known of this impending visit for a couple of months now. Like I said, I don't hate her but I really dislike her atm for inviting herself. Anyway, she expects to be picked up from the airport...even though it is a nuisance for us. I'm thinking of not being here when when visits. Anyone else been in this situation and how did it pan out? I'm thinking it will put a big strain on our relationship..we've been married for eighteen years .
    8 answers · Family · 6 years ago
  • Is my punishment too severe?

    My daughter is a teen and she if extremely messy...she has had many warnings about the state of her room. She has a problem with hygiene....especially putting dirty clothes in the laundry(not even asking her to wash them) and throwing out food that she doesn't eat at school. So today she was going to have a friend over for a sleep over... show more
    My daughter is a teen and she if extremely messy...she has had many warnings about the state of her room. She has a problem with hygiene....especially putting dirty clothes in the laundry(not even asking her to wash them) and throwing out food that she doesn't eat at school. So today she was going to have a friend over for a sleep over after school so I went in her room to get it aired...tidy and open the window. There was an unpleasant odour and to my great horror I found bags and bags or rotten food and rubbish and dirty clothes..and things I cannot bring myself to mention. I cleaned out her room and dissinfected all her furniture....took out all her clothes washed all of it and vaccummed etc. I decided she wont have drawers at all....so I place a huge cardboard box to store her clean clothes in....took away her ipod and computer and cancelled her sleep over and she is grounded for two weeks. Is this punishment too severe? She did have many warnings and I worry about health risks...did find maggots in her bags ...gross right?
    3 answers · Teen & Preteen · 6 years ago
  • LOTRO:What is the best way to paly a guardian?

    Hey I would love your tips on how to play a guardian..I'm mainly looking for important things that I must do. Most important skills when tanking...any advice would be helpfull at this stage. I'm reading everything I can get my hands on..guides etc but would love to hear it from you. Thanks heaps
    Hey I would love your tips on how to play a guardian..I'm mainly looking for important things that I must do. Most important skills when tanking...any advice would be helpfull at this stage. I'm reading everything I can get my hands on..guides etc but would love to hear it from you. Thanks heaps
    2 answers · Video & Online Games · 6 years ago
  • Lord of the rings online:What does it mean when loot says "This item can be turned in for tasks'?

    So a lot of loot I pick up from killing monsters says this in red...'This item can be turned in for tasks' Does it mean you can use it in a vocation> Or is it a quest item? Thanks if you can help me.
    So a lot of loot I pick up from killing monsters says this in red...'This item can be turned in for tasks' Does it mean you can use it in a vocation> Or is it a quest item? Thanks if you can help me.
    1 answer · Video & Online Games · 6 years ago
  • Perfect world: How can I zoom into my character?

    So I just started playing today..so far so good except that my character is tiny and seems so far away. I want to scroll into my toon so I can feel like I'm there but I cannot seem to be able to zoom in. I have gone into settings and played around with things but to no avail. Is this the way the game is meant to be? Help please maybe I missed... show more
    So I just started playing today..so far so good except that my character is tiny and seems so far away. I want to scroll into my toon so I can feel like I'm there but I cannot seem to be able to zoom in. I have gone into settings and played around with things but to no avail. Is this the way the game is meant to be? Help please maybe I missed something. Thanks
    2 answers · Video & Online Games · 6 years ago
  • Breast cancer:Can an oncologist tell a patient how long a lump has been in their body?

    Ok so neighbour friend told me she was diagnosed with bc...I know what that feels like since I too have been through it myself. She told me she had a mastectomy and will be getting chemo and radiotherapy. She also told me she had a grade 3 bc. She asked me what grade mine was and I told her it was grade 1...I felt guilty. Anyway her oncologist told... show more
    Ok so neighbour friend told me she was diagnosed with bc...I know what that feels like since I too have been through it myself. She told me she had a mastectomy and will be getting chemo and radiotherapy. She also told me she had a grade 3 bc. She asked me what grade mine was and I told her it was grade 1...I felt guilty. Anyway her oncologist told her that her lump had only been in her breast for a couple of months and that it had grown quite quickly. I found this bit of information odd since non of my doctors could tell me that kind of information. I'm now asking you if it is possible to know how long a bc lump has been present in the patient's body. Also does this lady's bc sound aggressive? I'm worried about her ..she's in her early thirties I think and she has a very young child.
    3 answers · Cancer · 6 years ago
  • Do you get to free roam or explore areas in LOTRO?

    So I just started the game and I really like it so far. I'm an ex wow player. My character is only level 6 so I have loads of levelling to do yet ..I'm not even sure if the area I'm questing in is just the starting area..Any light you can shed on the matter is greatly appreciated. Thanks
    So I just started the game and I really like it so far. I'm an ex wow player. My character is only level 6 so I have loads of levelling to do yet ..I'm not even sure if the area I'm questing in is just the starting area..Any light you can shed on the matter is greatly appreciated. Thanks
    3 answers · Video & Online Games · 6 years ago
  • Grand fantasia : Is there an option to play on 'flull screen'?

    So I downloaded this game for free...looks good so far...but I cannot get the full screen happening it only seems to be playable on a minimised screen ...the option to maximise screen just doesn't function. Help please. I can't read the quests properly on the smaller sized screen especialy since all the type is white and hard to see... show more
    So I downloaded this game for free...looks good so far...but I cannot get the full screen happening it only seems to be playable on a minimised screen ...the option to maximise screen just doesn't function. Help please. I can't read the quests properly on the smaller sized screen especialy since all the type is white and hard to see properly. Is there an option to make screen bigger anywhere in the game?
    2 answers · Video & Online Games · 6 years ago
  • Am I overweight for my height?

    I weigh 143 Lbs...65 kilos and my height is 5'4 or 163 cm I eat healthy and exercise daily. Afcourse I'd like to be thinner. Just wondering if this is overweight or obese? Or is is normal?
    I weigh 143 Lbs...65 kilos and my height is 5'4 or 163 cm I eat healthy and exercise daily. Afcourse I'd like to be thinner. Just wondering if this is overweight or obese? Or is is normal?
    3 answers · Diet & Fitness · 6 years ago
  • What quantity of mixed nuts will give me enough protein for dinner?

    So I bought a bag of mixed nuts and I steamed some cabbage , cauliflower, brocolli and carrot and buck choy and I want to eat it all together. Is 1/2 cup or 1/4 cup of mixed nuts a good quantity for an everning meal? I'm new to this whole vegetarian thing.
    So I bought a bag of mixed nuts and I steamed some cabbage , cauliflower, brocolli and carrot and buck choy and I want to eat it all together. Is 1/2 cup or 1/4 cup of mixed nuts a good quantity for an everning meal? I'm new to this whole vegetarian thing.
    4 answers · Vegetarian & Vegan · 6 years ago
  • Is Elizabeth Wurtzel(writer of' Prozac Nation'), really a drug addict?

    I'm reading her book atm titled 'More, Now. again.'..She is a genius of a writer and very easy to read. The thing is I cannot believe that she really is or ever was a drug addict. Usually drug addicts find it difficult to concentrate and focus yet this girl manages to write bestseller after bestseller..Krudos to her success as a writer... show more
    I'm reading her book atm titled 'More, Now. again.'..She is a genius of a writer and very easy to read. The thing is I cannot believe that she really is or ever was a drug addict. Usually drug addicts find it difficult to concentrate and focus yet this girl manages to write bestseller after bestseller..Krudos to her success as a writer but I don't buy that she really is or ever was a drug addict. The way she portrays her addiction is intense enough for her habit to have fried those genius brain cells of hers. She is beautifull as she is intelligent and even in her most supposedly vulnerable states she is still militant and self -possesed. Please share your views on this awesome yet mysterious author. Thanks
    1 answer · Books & Authors · 6 years ago