I'm 68. And I took full advantage of the freedom of the late sixties and seventies. At 16, not so much. But at 17, I got drunk (once), smoked weed, took LSD (a couple of times). I was artistic and dying to get my life started.
So, I don't think you are heading down a bad path, yet. You are being a teen....
Best answer: I'm 68. And I took full advantage of the freedom of the late sixties and seventies. At 16, not so much. But at 17, I got drunk (once), smoked weed, took LSD (a couple of times). I was artistic and dying to get my life started.
So, I don't think you are heading down a bad path, yet. You are being a teen. But be cautious. You want to get out of the small town, so focus on how you are going to do that. Don't think the answer is to get married to someone who will save you from it. That is a bad move. I know, because that is what I did. Married at 18 to a jerk. Five years later we moved to San Francisco and got divorced. Best thing that ever happened to me. Just being in a place where a lot of people who didn't follow a traditional path allowed me to re-invent myself. I sometimes wonder how life would have been if I'd made better choices in my youth.
School: You need it. Start looking into scholarships. However, if college is out of reach, it doesn't matter. There are a lot of people like me who worked their way through school. Start working and look into community college. School is school no matter what people think. Once you are in the working world, your school is not what defines you. It is your ability to work, be creative and excel at what you do that matters. If you can't swing the four year degree, look for an interim job that you can support yourself on, and possibly use that to relocate to a place where there are a lot of educational opportunities.
I've been an art director, mural painter, project manager, designer, and now I am a writer working in nuclear medicine. I own my own home, and I answer to no one but me. I went through a lot of stuff, and made some bad choices, but it all worked out in the end.
If I could talk to my teenage self this is what I would say:
Boyfriends come and go, invest in yourself. Sex, honestly it doesn't get enjoyable until you are in your twenties. So tell those young guys to go pound salt. Not worth risking pregnancy, your reputation, or your health to satisfy a guy. And young guys don't do it well.
Be a little selfish. You come first. Your future comes first. Oh yeah, stay away from drinking and/or drugs. Never did any good for anyone.
Try for a scholarship. College is possible. You are smart than average, and you can't win if you don't get into the game.
Skills: invest in learning skills. Simple things like sewing and learning to cook. Learn a language.
Debt: Avoid it like the plague. It is a trap.
In the end, the most valuable thing you have is yourself. Treat it with respect and nurture it.
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