A large number of things went wrong: the condom broke, AND you missed a contraceptive pill, and you took the morning after pill but it failed. So you did everything you could but you're still pregnant. You haven't told us how far into the pregnancy you are. But I presume you've only just found out, so...
Best answer: A large number of things went wrong: the condom broke, AND you missed a contraceptive pill, and you took the morning after pill but it failed. So you did everything you could but you're still pregnant. You haven't told us how far into the pregnancy you are. But I presume you've only just found out, so it's shortly after your first missed period.
Although they may be very conservative they are supposed to be Christian. So the question is are they truly Christian or are they more concerned with outward appearances? Also which denomination or sect do they belong to? Unfortunately you won't really find out until they've been tested by hearing the news. I take it you still live with them while you're finishing college.
If they are truly Christian then they will be disappointed in you, but they will ultimately be helpful. They'll recognise that being excessively judgmental towards single mothers is what drives many to having an abortion. They may advise you to give the child up for adoption, and you should seriously consider it. But ultimately you will make that decision when the baby is born. Your mother can be very helpful in teaching you how to look after your baby if you choose to keep him or her.
If they are only pseudo-Christian then they may do one of two things. They may try to force you to have an abortion or they may just kick you out. They ultimately can't force you to have an abortion against your will. But they can kick you out.
I would advise you to postpone telling them till you've done your final assessment for college. You should probably be able to hide the pregnancy until then. Look up your options for emergency accommodation, for instance do you have any friends who would take you in in an emergency? Also collect any important documents and other items of property. It's too late to be begging for them if your parents kick you out with just the clothes on your back.
Also will the minister at your church respect your confidentiality? If he's a minister in a mainstream denomination he is likely to be helpful, and he may be prepared to mediate with your parents. But only you know if he is to be trusted.
Hopefully they won't instantly kick you out. But you should be prepared for the worst.
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