He sounds inappropriate at best, and I would lean towards sinister at this point, until proven otherwise, for the sake of you guys' safety. Some random grown man that your mom happens to have been dating for a few months has no business touching you, let alone repeatedly bear hugging you. It's possible...
Best answer: He sounds inappropriate at best, and I would lean towards sinister at this point, until proven otherwise, for the sake of you guys' safety. Some random grown man that your mom happens to have been dating for a few months has no business touching you, let alone repeatedly bear hugging you. It's possible he's just socially and emotionally clueless about it and has no bad intentions, but you CANNOT risk making that assumption when he's going to be staying overnight in your house. There's no end of cases of kids who've been hurt by the mom's boyfriend.
It's extremely important for all people to know not to ignore their intuition about potential danger. You hear far too many stories about crime victims who had a gut feeling about something but chose to just play it off instead of taking precautions, because they thought they were just imagining things or being dramatic, or didn't want to cause a scene, etc.
So make sure the door to your room stays locked all night, and if it's the typical inner door lock that can be easily picked with a coat hanger, then you have to prop a chair against it or push your dresser in front of it or something so that you'll at least wake up from the noise if someone tries to get in. You could put a door stop/wedge under it too, but with any of those, they'll eventually slide across the floor if someone's determined to get in. Test it out first and make sure it'll be a good deterrent.
Keep a phone in the room, and some weapons. And not a baseball bat or a hammer, because unless you're pretty strong and fast compared to a grown man, it won't be much help, because unless you got him real hard in the head, he'd just take the bat away. I'd say longish knives and the element of surprise would be a better bet, meaning don't let an attacker see it coming; then run away screaming, or else finish the job, if necessary. And don't go out to use the bathroom that night without a knife.
But that's like worst case scenario stuff, and I don't want to turn something that may have just been a well meaning but inappropriate attempt to make friends, into a horror movie paranoia. It may turn out he's a decent guy, but like anyone else, it takes years to build trust.
In the meantime, don't get within touching distance of him and keep some furniture between you. If he keeps looking like he wants to close the distance to grab you again, then that's a pretty strong indicator of what he's after, and you should state politely but in no uncertain terms that you don't want him touching you, however you want to phrase it. If he then tries to turn it around and lay the blame on you for being "unfriendly" or whatever, then that's another cause for suspicion, because what he should say, is "okay, sorry."
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