• How long can a family member carry on a feud that happened 60 years ago?

    My last aunt on my father's side passed away. Her obit didn't mention me being a survivor and I am a blood relative. When I saw my cousin at the funeral, I asked him why and he said "Why should it? You're not a member of this family." Now I know there was some trouble between my father and my... show more
    My last aunt on my father's side passed away. Her obit didn't mention me being a survivor and I am a blood relative. When I saw my cousin at the funeral, I asked him why and he said "Why should it? You're not a member of this family." Now I know there was some trouble between my father and my grandmother decades ago, like in the 1950s, and it didn't even involve my cousin and me. I don't even know what it was about, so why would my cousin feel the need to carry this grudge so long?
    6 answers · 3 hours ago
  • Why do they put jacuzzis in pools in colleges?

    during the tour of the my daughters university we looked at the rec center and there is a pool there and next to it is a jacuzzi. This does not seem appropriate for school and it is out in the open which means both boys and girls can use it together? How can I make sure my daughter does not use it?
    during the tour of the my daughters university we looked at the rec center and there is a pool there and next to it is a jacuzzi. This does not seem appropriate for school and it is out in the open which means both boys and girls can use it together? How can I make sure my daughter does not use it?
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • I found out my dad is talking to another women that isn't my mom, I don't know what to do.?

    Im 17 years old and I found out my dad is talking to another women, my parents have been married for 18 years and this just hurts so much knowing my dad is talking to another women that isn't my mom, I stumbled across it through his phone because I play soccer and he always takes videos of me an shows it to me... show more
    Im 17 years old and I found out my dad is talking to another women, my parents have been married for 18 years and this just hurts so much knowing my dad is talking to another women that isn't my mom, I stumbled across it through his phone because I play soccer and he always takes videos of me an shows it to me after so i was going through the videos and i came across these pictures of a women, at first i just thought they were pictures he used to get off with so i just left it alone but then i went back to the videos to send them to myself and i went on his messages and saw the face of the women on his message board, so i clicked on it, (i know it wrong to invade privacy but i couldn't stop myself) I couldn't believe what I was seeing and I just couldn't look at him the same,, I was so mad and sad all these emotions, I dont want to tell my sister thats 15 years old because she looks up to him so much as do I and i don't want to tell my mom because i don't want to hurt her and she is a housewife so she hasn't had a job in a long time so id not know what she will do with herself. please help i don't want them to split up.
    14 answers · 24 hours ago
  • How do I convince my parents to let me take my phone to bed with me?

    Currently, I can only take a book to bed with me, but I want to have my phone 1. Because it helps me sleep 2. I m a babysitter and it helps me arrange with clients, and 3. Because I d like to use it as an alarm in the mornings. Thanks a lot!
    Currently, I can only take a book to bed with me, but I want to have my phone 1. Because it helps me sleep 2. I m a babysitter and it helps me arrange with clients, and 3. Because I d like to use it as an alarm in the mornings. Thanks a lot!
    11 answers · 10 hours ago
  • Is it a bad idea my 13yo daughter sits on her 17yo big brother's lap while cuddling with him like this while they watch TV on the couch?

    Is it a bad idea my 13yo daughter sits on her 17yo big brother's lap while cuddling with him like this while they watch TV on the couch?

    Best answer: um I guess its good that they are close but if they do anything further than that.... you're probably going to have incest grandchildren
    Best answer: um I guess its good that they are close but if they do anything further than that.... you're probably going to have incest grandchildren
    15 answers · 3 days ago
  • Was I sexually abused ?

    It's always something that has been on my mind , I've always had a feeling that somethig hasn't been right ? My dad has been an alcoholic from all Ivan remember , my mum and Dad separated when I was about 5 and since then on they have had shared custody and I've been between houses. he has never... show more
    It's always something that has been on my mind , I've always had a feeling that somethig hasn't been right ? My dad has been an alcoholic from all Ivan remember , my mum and Dad separated when I was about 5 and since then on they have had shared custody and I've been between houses. he has never abused me from what I can remember I hardly remember any memories from my childhood , but I do remember starting to masturbrate at a very young age , 10/11 maybe? Maybe even younger, I use to open my barbies legs are rubbed myself again her , in cases it would hurt but I still done it, I use to watch babe station and act like they did , rolled my pants up into things and re-inacted it. I do remember one time I was doing it and my dad came in and shouted st me and took the tv out of my room. I remember my dad use to walk around naked on occasions and it use to discust me, I don't know if he meant for me to see or not) , I use to say to my previous close friends in the past that my dad raped me , I also use to have dreams about having sex with my dad and I enjoyed them in the dream until I woke up and felt absoloutly discussed. It's a subject I always try to avoid thinking about rhough if sometimes pops up into my head , I would never be able to ask my dad if he did . Could I please get some advice ? Thanks
    8 answers · 5 hours ago
  • What age did you move out?

    Best answer: I'm 18 and I was going to move out this year but things didn't work out and I'll be moving out next year to live on campus. What I've been doing for the past year is making a list of this that I'll need just to be prepared. For example I'll be living in a big city and no longer be able to... show more
    Best answer: I'm 18 and I was going to move out this year but things didn't work out and I'll be moving out next year to live on campus. What I've been doing for the past year is making a list of this that I'll need just to be prepared. For example I'll be living in a big city and no longer be able to take my car everywhere so on my list I have that aside from an umbrella, to buy a waterproof jacket. And also things for my dorm room such as a mini fridge and what not. My advice would be to just imagine yourself in the place you're planning to move to and think of the things that would be different than your current living arrangements.
    45 answers · 5 days ago
  • Is this abusive behaviour?

    I was in the kitchen last night making dinner with my daughter and we were listening to some music. My husband walks in and says "Turn that music off, Im coming in here to put the dishwasher on, I want to listen to my programme, so turn it off". Normally I would have just turned it off, because I know... show more
    I was in the kitchen last night making dinner with my daughter and we were listening to some music. My husband walks in and says "Turn that music off, Im coming in here to put the dishwasher on, I want to listen to my programme, so turn it off". Normally I would have just turned it off, because I know that my husband doesn't like my input generally, and I know that it will cause an argument if I don't. But last night I was just happy listening to my music and happy making dinner and I didn't see why he felt like he could just barge in and decide to change what I was doing. I wouldn't dare just march into a room he was in and tell him to change what he was doing. I might ask him to turn something down etc, but not just come in and say "I'm here now so deal with it!" I said no, I'd be finished in the kitchen soon and to wait. He started shouting and I shouted back, he then grabbed his camera and started filming me. I tried grabbing his phone because I didn't want to be filmed and pushed me back, I pushed him, he pushed me again and it got nasty. Next time I won't be playing my music in my own home, because I know how it will end. I knew if I said i wanted to listen to my music there would an argument.
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • Are there really people who have sex with their own children?

    Best answer: there are whole villages built on such believes so yes
    Best answer: there are whole villages built on such believes so yes
    19 answers · 3 days ago
  • So I just got grounded because i lied to my teacher about my homework and now im in trouble with my parents.?

    I got everything taken away. (phone/tv/life). There's this dance coming up and i cant go now. What should i do? I feel like i always make my parents mad and i cant do anything right.
    I got everything taken away. (phone/tv/life). There's this dance coming up and i cant go now. What should i do? I feel like i always make my parents mad and i cant do anything right.
    15 answers · 3 days ago
  • My parents refuse to trust me----SEND HELP?

    So I am 17, and a junior in High school. I have straight A s, I am in high academic classes, play sports, I am part of the National Honors Society, part of the Debate team, volunteer quite a bit, and have over a 4.0 GPA. My teachers all love me, and I am friends with the good kids. I have never drank, I do not... show more
    So I am 17, and a junior in High school. I have straight A s, I am in high academic classes, play sports, I am part of the National Honors Society, part of the Debate team, volunteer quite a bit, and have over a 4.0 GPA. My teachers all love me, and I am friends with the good kids. I have never drank, I do not attend any wild parties, and I have never broke curfew. Despite all of this, my parents do not seem to trust me. They will not allow me to get my license (because that would mean more freedom I guess?) and as of recent they have began to insist on taking my phone every night at 9 pm. They have my pass code, and they look through my phone every night. I do not have anything to hide from them, but I feel as though this is a tad bit excessive. At this point I do not know what to do or how to handle this situation that only seems to be getting worse. I have tried talking to them about it, but it only seems to make the situation worse. Please help.
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • Did I make the right decision?

    A few weeks ago, I left my boyfriend because for the last 3 years we have been having problems with his mom talking crap about me on facebook, to his family, and even sending nasty messages to my dad... she refuses to be cordial with me or allow me at any family events, even though I've done nothing to deserve... show more
    A few weeks ago, I left my boyfriend because for the last 3 years we have been having problems with his mom talking crap about me on facebook, to his family, and even sending nasty messages to my dad... she refuses to be cordial with me or allow me at any family events, even though I've done nothing to deserve this treatment. My boyfriend allowed this to happen but also fought with her about changing her ways but his parents won't budge. There wasn't anything else wrong with our relationship but this was causing too much strain on both of us. He grew tired of arguing with his parents and I was done with being treated like garbage and watching him spend time with them without me for holidays etc.. But now people are saying I let his mom win by leaving and I miss him like crazy, and I know we both still feel love for each other.. I'm not sure if I made the right decision anymore. Opinions? Please and thank you
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • My Nigerians family no longer like me. And I'm pregnant with my boyfriends baby. Please I need some advice.?

    Wiv my bf 4 10 months, we've had issues, 1 of them bein that he lives wiv his sista n her husband, 2 children while his parents r in Nigeria, but the sista n husband don't stop askin him 2 look afta the kids, do shoppin, clean the hse etc. N the husband does NOTHIN but his own thing. U wuld think it was my... show more
    Wiv my bf 4 10 months, we've had issues, 1 of them bein that he lives wiv his sista n her husband, 2 children while his parents r in Nigeria, but the sista n husband don't stop askin him 2 look afta the kids, do shoppin, clean the hse etc. N the husband does NOTHIN but his own thing. U wuld think it was my bf hse, marriage n kids. He sends £ bk home. N he has a list of things that they can do but I can't, he says I shuld understand coz I'm his gf, like if disturb him through a Chelsea game its a big deal, but if they call him he has to go, he can't say no. Over the weekend, he had work Sunday nite he told me he's going to go in work an hour late (which he NEVER does) jus coz he wants 2, but I no he was doin it coz his sister had 2 get her husband from the airport. The sister was goin 2 take the kids but my bf said no leave them coz I'm going in work late. But I no he's lying, he did it to help her out. Coz I got the hump he told the sista that I wasn't happy that he's losing out on money jus 2 do her a favour AGAIN! Kids shuld ave been in bed that time but they were gona wait up 4 the dad so she should've taken them wiv her, she didn't coz it benefited her leavin them. She said to me that she thought I cared about her family but I clearly don't. Its like I was welcomed by the family but now I seem to be disrupting the situation of them asking my bf for EVERYTHING, now they've got a problem wiv me. I care about his family but we need our own lives. They r takers, Im sick of it
    7 answers · 13 hours ago
  • Why are my sisters so mean and how do I deal with it?

    Best answer: People who are feeling confident and secure and have self respect don't feel a need to call people names, criticise, bully, shout, etc. Bullies want attention, and my general feelings are that if people allow them to get their way through fear (the ultimate emotional reaction) they are succeeding and will... show more
    Best answer: People who are feeling confident and secure and have self respect don't feel a need to call people names, criticise, bully, shout, etc.

    Bullies want attention, and my general feelings are that if people allow them to get their way through fear (the ultimate emotional reaction) they are succeeding and will continue. One way to combat verbal bullying is not to ignore them completely as this shows that they are getting to you, but demonstrate that you have heard the remark or whatever with a glance, dismissive wave or brief response ("oh yes", or similar) end THEN ignore them. Why should you care what such a pathetic person thinks of you? (Only weak and needy people feel a need to bully). Alternatively, or in addition, try to use some humour (U.K. spellings!). It need not be mocking humour, but some light-hearted banter can often diffuse situations.

    Put on an imaginary suit of golden armour, and visualise the unkind remarks (or those you perceive to be unkind - be very careful not to imagine a slight when none is intended) as arrows, harmlessly bouncing off your armour and falling to the ground.
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • Should I take the blame for something I didn't do?

    I recently stayed at my aunts house for three days and she has quite a few cats living on her property, most of which are outdoor but three or four of them are indoor. I stayed in a room that has a door that opens to a private garden. I'd go out there occasionally just to get some sun and catch up on... show more
    I recently stayed at my aunts house for three days and she has quite a few cats living on her property, most of which are outdoor but three or four of them are indoor. I stayed in a room that has a door that opens to a private garden. I'd go out there occasionally just to get some sun and catch up on reading but I always would remember to close it. The day I left I got a text from my dad telling me that my aunt was extremely upset because one of the indoor cats had gotten out from the open door in the room I was staying in. I was shocked to hear this because I distinctly remember having closed the door made the bed and cleaned up any mess I had made. I felt extremely guilty although I didn't do anything to cause the cat to run away. I also discovered that I had taken a picture on Snapchat with a timestamp of exactly 5 minutes before I had left and the door just so happens to be clearly closed in the picture. I didn't even want to talk to my aunt so I sent my dad the picture to which he sent my aunt and she assumed that he was calling her a liar. In some aspects I can be careless but I am an animal lover and have animals of my own so in this aspect I am not careless at all. My dad at first believe me when I showed him the picture and the timestamp but now he is insisting I accept the blame. Is that fair?
    8 answers · 1 day ago