• Cousin is mooching off my parents and sharing my room. What do I do?

    so my cousin has been living with us for about year. And because I have the biggest room (the basement), he shares the room with me. This was supposed to be a 6 month thing and ended up being a one year thing. He hasn’t been looking for a new place, he hasn’t made an effort to save money, he spends way too much... show more
    so my cousin has been living with us for about year. And because I have the biggest room (the basement), he shares the room with me. This was supposed to be a 6 month thing and ended up being a one year thing. He hasn’t been looking for a new place, he hasn’t made an effort to save money, he spends way too much money on weed and just plays video games all day. It’s really stressful for me because I’ve never had my own room and when I finally got my own room he moved in. My parents are very fed up with him but don’t want to ruin their relationship with him. Him and I fight all the time mostly becuase he doesn’t clean up after himself and I am physically tired of cleaning up after him all the time. Recently we got into a big argument because he’s angry that I tell my mom how dirty he is becuase she ends up yelling at him to clean up. But I have no choice becuase when I tell him to clean up he just yells at me and spoils endings of tv shows and video games to get me out of the room. He’s 28 years old and I’m a 22 year old woman. I can’t even bring my friends or boyfriend over because his clothes are all over the floor. I just really don’t know what to do at this point. What do I do?
    18 answers · 3 days ago
  • What do you do when a girl is crying ?

    My sister was watching her favorite show she's upset because her favorite actress left the show for an unknown reason the show is old it was back in the 70's who knows why she left she said it's not fair she's mad at me I don't know why I had nothing to do with it. I don't understand why... show more
    My sister was watching her favorite show she's upset because her favorite actress left the show for an unknown reason the show is old it was back in the 70's who knows why she left she said it's not fair she's mad at me I don't know why I had nothing to do with it. I don't understand why most girls cry over celebrities so much. She's so mad and upset she keeps hitting me it's almost midnight she won't go to sleep she's too upset. How can I calm her down ?
    5 answers · 7 hours ago
  • I don't want to teach my kids how to drive or drive them. Am I normal?

    Best answer: It's my opinion that you are raising your children to hate you.
    Best answer: It's my opinion that you are raising your children to hate you.
    21 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is it rude to tell your inlaws to not take photos of your child?

    My boyfriends family (mom, sisters) are planning to come after I give birth to my son, I’m not sure if they wanted to come as soon as possible or a couple days when he’s already been home for awhile, either way my problem is I don’t want them taking pictures and posting them on social media but I don’t know how to... show more
    My boyfriends family (mom, sisters) are planning to come after I give birth to my son, I’m not sure if they wanted to come as soon as possible or a couple days when he’s already been home for awhile, either way my problem is I don’t want them taking pictures and posting them on social media but I don’t know how to go about that? I’m not close with them whatsoever, me and his family are still at the hi and bye stage, and I don’t like the idea of them posting my child to their followers on social media whom I don’t know either.. I just don’t want to seem rude about it..
    23 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is this weird/fair?

    So my mom and step dad are separating for a little bit so my mom and I are currently living with my grandma and grandpa until my mom saves a little bit of money to get a place of our own. Well. About two weeks ago my great grandpa died. I am currently staying in the room that my great grandma and grandpa stayed in... show more
    So my mom and step dad are separating for a little bit so my mom and I are currently living with my grandma and grandpa until my mom saves a little bit of money to get a place of our own. Well. About two weeks ago my great grandpa died. I am currently staying in the room that my great grandma and grandpa stayed in before my great grandma died two years ago. Now that my great grandpa is gone, my grandpa has decided that a BIG portrait of my dead great grandma should go into the room I’m staying in. I think it’s weird and kind of unfair to have in the room that is supposed to be mine for two months. It literally creeps me out having her look down on me. I can’t sleep. I love her with all my heart and miss her but this is just weird to me. It’s the same picture used at her funeral. What do I do? I don’t want it to be hung over my bed. Isn’t it kind of weird? Is it just me?? By the way I’m 18 and just graduated high school, if that changes anything whatsoever.
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • I m stuck, can you help me?

    My mother and brother are facing homeless very soon and I feel like I can t help them because I dont have the money to lend them for anything because I don t make a lot at my job. I m living with my fiancé and her parents right now and they won t let them move in too. I m trying to find a homeless shelter that... show more
    My mother and brother are facing homeless very soon and I feel like I can t help them because I dont have the money to lend them for anything because I don t make a lot at my job. I m living with my fiancé and her parents right now and they won t let them move in too. I m trying to find a homeless shelter that allows pets but i can t find anything...does anyone have any suggestions?
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why are older brothers more protective of their younger sisters when it comes to dating than younger brothers are to their older sisters?

    Best answer: it may be because that's how the family dynamic work or instinctively boys are more protect of girls than vice versa also this is not true in all cases but do see what you mean.
    Best answer: it may be because that's how the family dynamic work or instinctively boys are more protect of girls than vice versa also this is not true in all cases but do see what you mean.
    7 answers · 1 day ago
  • How do I respond at the family reunion this weekend when my Mom's cousin wants to discuss my late grandfather's alcoholism which I dont?

    Best answer: You have no guarantee this topic will come up. If it does, excuse yourself, and leave the room.
    Best answer: You have no guarantee this topic will come up. If it does, excuse yourself, and leave the room.
    7 answers · 1 day ago
  • Strict mom, thinking about threatening to run away ?

    Best answer: I answer as a mother of 3 (who have all graduated uni) This is bordering on being unhealthy You are learning no independence at all. What alarms me most is that you didnt get to attend your school of choice. thats detrimental to your education and doesnt benefit you in any way unless her decision was purely... show more
    Best answer: I answer as a mother of 3 (who have all graduated uni)
    This is bordering on being unhealthy
    You are learning no independence at all.

    What alarms me most is that you didnt get to attend your school of choice.
    thats detrimental to your education and doesnt benefit you in any way unless her decision was purely financial. If she couldnt afford for you to attend & board, and you couldnt make up the shortfall, thats different.

    Not being allowed to be with your friends for a week after graduation seems to be down to culture, as we actually gave each of our 3 a 10 day trip as a graduation present (with a friend)

    Being allowed to go for 2/3 days would be a compromise
    I'm struggling to help because IF this is cultural, there is little you can do
    Running away isnt going to solve anything as she may track you down and bring you back, and even if she didnt, you wouldnt be able to relax and enjoy yourself for fear of knowing she could turn up any moment

    Sit her down and explain she has raised you properly and you understand her apprehensions, but you are a young adult and need some independence. That you arent asking to go, like all of your friends are for a week, but for a few days before you all go your separate ways for college.
    Hopefully she will see this is something you deserve to do
    13 answers · 1 day ago
  • When would you let a kid stay home by themselves?

    I'm 13 and my mom is really overprotective. I can't stay home alone for more than five minutes by myself. Also, she never lets me to in public by myself period. Our backpack broke one time and she wouldn't let me cross the street by myself to buy a new one across the street. Another time she made my big... show more
    I'm 13 and my mom is really overprotective. I can't stay home alone for more than five minutes by myself. Also, she never lets me to in public by myself period. Our backpack broke one time and she wouldn't let me cross the street by myself to buy a new one across the street. Another time she made my big brother (19) come with me and my friends to the park, even though there were 6 of us and 3/6 had phoness. Doo you think she's being unreasonable?
    10 answers · 14 hours ago
  • Grandmother died without a will,who gets the house ?

    Me and my grandmother were extremely close,she raised me on my father’s behalf when he had ms. Eventually she got very sick & her other son (she had two children him & my father.) I stayed with her as well to help care for her. My uncle & his wife would smoke,drink & take her pills without... show more
    Me and my grandmother were extremely close,she raised me on my father’s behalf when he had ms. Eventually she got very sick & her other son (she had two children him & my father.) I stayed with her as well to help care for her. My uncle & his wife would smoke,drink & take her pills without permission as well as would try abusing me as a minor. When I was 17 my uncle tried hitting my & my grandmother called the cops. They called my mother to take me away from the abusive household & my grandmother threatened to kill herself if I left..that was the last time I’d ever see her again. After that I got 1 phone call & never got a response,I tried stopping by and knocking,calling,even calling aps. It had been two years since I heard from her & I saw on Facebook she had passed..no one told me or let me know. I’m completely devastated. What’s worse is that these horrible people who did my grandmother wrong are still in the home & I want them out! She didn’t leave a will but my father is deceased so it’s just me and my uncle. Does part of that house belong to me?if so how do I go about trying to take it from them? I’m hurt they didn’t let me be there for her in her last days & she would always say she wanted the house sold and the money split.
    17 answers · 2 days ago
  • My daughter has become a vegan. How do I get her to come to her senses and return to meat?

    She's 13 and wants to follow this vegan trend nonsense. She has gotten into the wrong crowd online and has watched too much peta propaganda videos. I will not allow her to give up meat. As a doctor, I know the negative health risks that will happen to a young child who refuses to eat meat. I have tried all that... show more
    She's 13 and wants to follow this vegan trend nonsense. She has gotten into the wrong crowd online and has watched too much peta propaganda videos. I will not allow her to give up meat. As a doctor, I know the negative health risks that will happen to a young child who refuses to eat meat. I have tried all that I can, but she remains stubborn and rebellious. My husband and I even tried force-feeding her but she would go into the bathroom and willfully vomit immediately afterwards. Before that we would try to sneak meat in her food but she would eventually detect it. Should I commit her to a psychiatric ward to treat her?
    27 answers · 4 days ago
  • Why do schools make boys and girls swim together in gym class?

    at my daughters schools from 8th -10th grade, in PE she attends the swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable and give immature boys an opportunity to harass and humiliate girls? And cause distractions and goofing off among everyday? Not to... show more
    at my daughters schools from 8th -10th grade, in PE she attends the swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable and give immature boys an opportunity to harass and humiliate girls? And cause distractions and goofing off among everyday? Not to mention young boys will be shirtless around young girls and I think that is inappropriate especially in a school setting My daughter keeps saying she does not care but she is young and may not understand how wrong this is this just seems wrong especially at school. Giving a boys a chance to leer at girls like this this class also pretty much just gives students to look at all the other students in bathing suits. Girls shouldn't be forced to be in this situation with boys and fear harassment can people really say honestly that young boys and girls will concentrate on swimming while they are around each other in bathing suits and not goof off? That boys (who aren't known for sensitivity) won't use this opportunity to harass or tease girls? what reason do they have to put them together? They can easily separate boys and girls buy taking the boys of another gym class and putting them with the boys in the gym class doing the swim unit and the same with girls. Cam someone please tell me the benefits and why exactly boys and girls should swim together in school? What is the reason?
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • I cant wait to move out so my parents will stop bugging me... Is this normal?

    I also like my privacy And maybe use a bathroom that has a door... My family hates me... Expecally my brother.... God... i want to die
    I also like my privacy And maybe use a bathroom that has a door... My family hates me... Expecally my brother.... God... i want to die
    9 answers · 8 hours ago
  • I should kill myself?

    I am guy 30, and everything i say is taking the wrong way. I have always been quiet, but as an adult i can be talkative. If i defend myself it's an issue. I am always blamed for everything, family just brings up my faults. Dad hates me, has always treated my sister better. My sister hates me, doesn't speak... show more
    I am guy 30, and everything i say is taking the wrong way. I have always been quiet, but as an adult i can be talkative. If i defend myself it's an issue. I am always blamed for everything, family just brings up my faults. Dad hates me, has always treated my sister better. My sister hates me, doesn't speak despite i have done things for her. Mom whom i have always had the best relationship with she hates me. She want speak to me, but her, my dad, and sister and nephew talk. It's like i'm not apart of the family. How to kill myself? try and treat people good, but nobody wants me around in this world.
    8 answers · 10 hours ago
  • Should my sister be doing this?

    I am a high school guy with a 14 year old sister that I really like and care for. I try to protect her as much as possible. When I have my buddies over for a visit they really like her also. Probably because she tells them how great they are. To her this is NOT flirting. It is just having fun with my buddies. ... show more
    I am a high school guy with a 14 year old sister that I really like and care for. I try to protect her as much as possible. When I have my buddies over for a visit they really like her also. Probably because she tells them how great they are. To her this is NOT flirting. It is just having fun with my buddies. She told one of my buddies “You are a great looking guy”. “You never have trouble getting a date do you”? He was on cloud 9 after that.
    10 answers · 20 hours ago
  • Marriage help?

    Boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He hasn't proposed but we have mutually decided we will be getting married this July! Now I'm getting anxious, sad, guilty about moving out of home ( I help a lot at my house, I have a disabled sibling). I just need another year to wrap my head around this and... show more
    Boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He hasn't proposed but we have mutually decided we will be getting married this July! Now I'm getting anxious, sad, guilty about moving out of home ( I help a lot at my house, I have a disabled sibling). I just need another year to wrap my head around this and so does my family. My boyfriend really wants to get married, but I want to wait. I will not move in with him until we are married. What are your thoughts?
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • HELP Ok so my step mom whose 42 and I 19 are having sex everyday while my Dad works. She says I’m “bigger” than my Dad and it’s our”secret”?

    What do I do about this? She gets me off like no other women can. I want to be with her. But my Dad is married to her as of 8 years. The sex is so f*cking good and she’s beautiful, but she’s threatening Me to not snitch
    What do I do about this? She gets me off like no other women can. I want to be with her. But my Dad is married to her as of 8 years. The sex is so f*cking good and she’s beautiful, but she’s threatening Me to not snitch
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • Stepdad wants me to join a Search Civil War Reenactor Group with him but I'm uncomfortable. Should I just go with it?

    My new stepdad is a total military history geek and wants me to join his Civil War Reenactor group with him. He says it will be a good bonding experience and is already buying me gear. The problem is, his group dresses as Confederate soldiers, and I'm black. I don't think he's racist, but I'm... show more
    My new stepdad is a total military history geek and wants me to join his Civil War Reenactor group with him. He says it will be a good bonding experience and is already buying me gear. The problem is, his group dresses as Confederate soldiers, and I'm black. I don't think he's racist, but I'm worried a group of men who like to dress in Confederate uniforms might include a few racists? Would it be safe for a black teen to hang with a lot of guys in Confederate uniforms carrying (replica) guns? And the idea of driving with a realistic looking gun in the car scares me...I'm worried if cops stop me for speeding I'll get shot. Also, I don't want pictures of me in a Confederate uniform ending up on Facebook. Are my concerns that the Civil War Reenactors may include some racists legitimate? Anyone know about those groups? Should I tell my new Stepdad I'm uncomfortable, or ask to join a Union group? Or will this hurt his feelings.
    8 answers · 13 hours ago