• My girlfriend cheated on me and wants me back? Should I leave or forgive?

    My girlfriend cheated on me with a guy she met at a bar. And I know the bar and it’s a bar where lots of guys go to who look for hook ups. He bought her a drink and then another and then another and she told me he said he thought she was beautiful and asked her if she wanted to go back to his place and they kissed... show more
    My girlfriend cheated on me with a guy she met at a bar. And I know the bar and it’s a bar where lots of guys go to who look for hook ups. He bought her a drink and then another and then another and she told me he said he thought she was beautiful and asked her if she wanted to go back to his place and they kissed in his car and had sex in his basement. She said she regretted everything and was crying her eyes out the whole time. Promised me to never go to that bar again. She was begging me not to leave her, but the whole time I’m saying to myself I’m done done done. What should I do? She’s gorgeous and I love her very much I just feel so stupid now because She cheated on me. Been together for almost two years. Should I leave or forgive.
    74 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • Why is my dad so annoying and retarded?

    I’m 16! I’m an adult! He won’t let me go to my boyfriends house tonight because he thinks I’m going to have sex with him. He’s having a birthday party for another friend and I know his friend and we’re good friends. My dad thinks I’m just going to have sex with him! It’s completely unfair!
    I’m 16! I’m an adult! He won’t let me go to my boyfriends house tonight because he thinks I’m going to have sex with him. He’s having a birthday party for another friend and I know his friend and we’re good friends. My dad thinks I’m just going to have sex with him! It’s completely unfair!
    51 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • I found out my wife of 16 years, had a one night stand the night before our wedding, all those years earlier?

    I've been married sixteen years. Two kids, nice house, and very financially stable. We have a good sex life, don't fight a lot and spend a lot of quality time together. But I came across an old journal of hers, and while skimming, I came across a journal entry for two days after our wedding, where she was... show more
    I've been married sixteen years. Two kids, nice house, and very financially stable. We have a good sex life, don't fight a lot and spend a lot of quality time together. But I came across an old journal of hers, and while skimming, I came across a journal entry for two days after our wedding, where she was asking god for forgiveness for having a one night stand with the bouncer at the bar where she had her bacherolette party. I have done some digging, and haven't found any signs of her currently cheating or cheating within the last 10 years. I confronted her and she admitted it. I just feel so gutted. If I knew of this back then, I wouldn't have married her. But now I just dont' know if I can forgive this. Cheating was always one of those things I couldn't forgive. But we have 16 years of marriage, and 19 years total together. I can't fathom throwing that away, over something that she regrets, based on a lot of journal entries following our marriage. She is a good mother, wife, and friend now. I'm so conflicted.
    41 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • I ve just found out that my boyfriend has cheated over 10 times with the same person in 2 years of being with me.. What do I do?

    Best answer: Definitely get away from the negativity and get yourself tested please. Remember the cheating probably doesn't have much to do with you and regardless if the excuses you deserve better. I know it will hurt because you have invested a great deal of time a trust, but at most take it one day at a time. At the end... show more
    Best answer: Definitely get away from the negativity and get yourself tested please. Remember the cheating probably doesn't have much to do with you and regardless if the excuses you deserve better. I know it will hurt because you have invested a great deal of time a trust, but at most take it one day at a time. At the end if the day you are going to do what you want... I have known a bunch of women to stay with a person who continously cheats and I hope you just head for the hills girl. Much love, Trish.
    96 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 days ago
  • Boyfriend won’t get his license or a job?

    My boyfriend who is 17, going on 18 in a couple months, keeps putting off getting a job and/or his license. We have been together for 8 months, we’re both in high school he’s a senior and I’m a sophomore. He does online school, he chose to do online school this school year because he said he wanted to work. It’s... show more
    My boyfriend who is 17, going on 18 in a couple months, keeps putting off getting a job and/or his license. We have been together for 8 months, we’re both in high school he’s a senior and I’m a sophomore. He does online school, he chose to do online school this school year because he said he wanted to work. It’s already been two and half months into the school year and he’s only applied for two jobs “supposedly” and he hasn’t heard back from either. Whenever I bring up him getting a job or a car he gets very very very angry with me. He wants to move out when he turns 18 but he can’t get through his head if he doesn’t get a job or some source of income he won’t be able to, he complains how stressed out he is. I love him to death, and I want the best for him but he just doesn’t see it like that. I understand we’re both in high school and there’s no reason to rush but he needs to be more responsible for his life and OUR future. It makes me so sad when I see him refuse to do anything that requires him leaving his room, I’ve tried talking to his mom but she isn’t much help either she doesn’t really mind if he lives with her until she’s dead. I don’t want to end the relationship over something like this, but I’m tired of having to nag him like his mom. I don’t know what to do any advice would be amazing thank you!
    13 answers · Singles & Dating · 16 hours ago
  • What should i do?

    I saw a friends penis at the gym showers and now i feel very awkward.
    I saw a friends penis at the gym showers and now i feel very awkward.
    77 answers · Friends · 4 days ago
  • Why are you ANSWERING questions in the Singles & Dating Category?

    What makes you an expert on this
    What makes you an expert on this
    61 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 days ago
  • Opened condom wrapper found in my car?

    It turned up today. I don't understand how it got there. It was a Chinese branded Durex wrapper. I photographed the evidence. My marriage has been rocky recently. I questioned my wife and she categorically denied knowing how it got there. She found the whole thing amusing. Claimed her colleague drove the car.... show more
    It turned up today. I don't understand how it got there. It was a Chinese branded Durex wrapper. I photographed the evidence. My marriage has been rocky recently. I questioned my wife and she categorically denied knowing how it got there. She found the whole thing amusing. Claimed her colleague drove the car. Then when I asked for the name of the colleague, she said she couldn't give the name. Said she will call him tomorrow to ask why he left a wrapper in the car and if he was fooling around with the real estate clients. I don't fully believe my wife and think she may have cheated. Do I just blindly trust her or start divorce proceedings? I have a strong opinion of cheating. If she has cheated, then it is already over between us. Is it plausible that her colleague was being dirty?
    27 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • Courthouse Marriage before Wedding Ceremony?

    My Fiancé and I have been talking about moving in together a lot lately. The problem is that my parents are religious and would not approve whatsoever of us doing this. Also, I kind of agree that we shouldn’t live together before we are married. Anyway, we thought about having a courthouse wedding and moving in,... show more
    My Fiancé and I have been talking about moving in together a lot lately. The problem is that my parents are religious and would not approve whatsoever of us doing this. Also, I kind of agree that we shouldn’t live together before we are married. Anyway, we thought about having a courthouse wedding and moving in, and then have the actual ceremony a few months later, but my parents, who are paying for most of it, would not give us a real ceremony because they don’t see a pint in one when we are married and see it as weird. Our thoughts were that we just do it anyway, and not tell anyone that we are having the courthouse wedding. This would definitely leave my parents thinking we were living together notnarried, but we could always tell them after right? We just aren’t sure what to do at this point and need suggestions. Please no insults against my family, we do love them. Thank you
    19 answers · Engagements & Weddings · 1 day ago
  • Wife wants threesome?

    18 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 1 day ago
  • Why don't most people marry and start families young anymore?

    Best answer: It's called "the curse of affluence".. As societies "advance" economically, values shift from family and community to individual financial status, especially among the middle class... high school kids are obsessed with getting into college specifically to get high-paying jobs... college... show more
    Best answer: It's called "the curse of affluence"..

    As societies "advance" economically, values shift from family and community to individual financial status, especially among the middle class... high school kids are obsessed with getting into college specifically to get high-paying jobs... college kids are obsessed with starting careers, and spend the first several years after graduation focused on personal advancement...

    The net result is a generation of people in their mid-to-late 20s (prime parenting years) who are focused entirely on themselves... buy the time they have finally "made it" in their own minds, most are either too old to start families or can only afford (both in terms of finances and energy) to have one or two children at the most.

    This is why you see population decreases in places like Japan or sharp demographic shifts in other First World nations due to minorities and lower economic classes out-breeding establishment classes by as much as 4-to-1...
    21 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • Can I put my unborn child up for adoption if I’m getting a divorce?

    Best answer: I have 3 adoptive children myself and my father-in-law is an adoption attorney .. Not without his consent. If he doesn't consent to the adoption, the adoption does not happen. For a child to be free and clear for adoption, BOTH parents must relinquish their rights in all 50 states. There's also a... show more
    Best answer: I have 3 adoptive children myself and my father-in-law is an adoption attorney ..

    Not without his consent. If he doesn't consent to the adoption, the adoption does not happen.

    For a child to be free and clear for adoption, BOTH parents must relinquish their rights in all 50 states. There's also a revocation period after relinquishment (usually about 72 hours) where the biological parent can change their mind after they have signed TPR (termination of parental rights). States that have Uniform Adoption Act, revocation is usually 30 days.

    Since you're married he will automatically be granted parental rights, not listing someone on a birth certificate makes adoption harder, not easier. With no father listed, the state requires a reasonable effort be made to locate the biological father and any candidates are DNA tested to prove the child is theirs, if there is a match he is given the opportunity to parent if he chooses. Each state has it's own laws on what it considers a reasonable effort.

    The state also wouldn't let you relinquish your rights on your own, the state doesn't allow a parent to walk away from their legal obligations to their children. The only time the state allows a parent to relinquish their parental rights is if it is so another person can adopt the child and that person is lined up and approved already to adopt. If he wants to parent the child, the state would not approve your friend for adoption. If you choose not to parent, he can take custody of the child, but you could end up paying child support (and you should, even without a court order).

    For the person you know to adopt the child, they would need to pass a home study first. All 50 states require a home study for all adoption types. Your adoption would be considered a direct placement adoption. They'd still have legal expenses of their attorney and the home study, plus they are required to pay your legal expenses. Some states allow a direct placement for both parties to use the same attorney and some require separate ones.

    In many states when a woman is pregnant, she cannot get a divorce until after the baby is born.

    If somehow you were able to place the baby without his knowledge or consent, if he were to find out that can overturn the adoption in court. Which will be a very hard situation for everyone involved.
    14 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 11 hours ago
  • What is your typical day like?

    70 answers · Singles & Dating · 5 days ago
  • What should I make of this response from my husband?

    Best answer: The fact that he clearly is attracted to her, at least a little bit, doesn't make it necessarily the reason he suggested her. If she was previously your sitter, it would only make sense to think of her as a possibility again. That having been said, the fact that your husband, even jokingly, expressed an... show more
    Best answer: The fact that he clearly is attracted to her, at least a little bit, doesn't make it necessarily the reason he suggested her. If she was previously your sitter, it would only make sense to think of her as a possibility again. That having been said, the fact that your husband, even jokingly, expressed an attraction to her may not make her your best choice. No good reason to tempt fate. At least he was honest about it. That's healthy.
    20 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 3 days ago