• If you're old, can you give me some life-related advice? (Read full).?

    See, i know this is going to sound rude so if you're easily offended just don't read, duhh. I am 20 & a Black woman. I do my best to look good.. You do get the idea. I try to look my best. Thankfully I'm not bad-looking so i do get asked out too When i was growing up, i always noticed how... show more
    See, i know this is going to sound rude so if you're easily offended just don't read, duhh. I am 20 & a Black woman. I do my best to look good.. You do get the idea. I try to look my best. Thankfully I'm not bad-looking so i do get asked out too When i was growing up, i always noticed how practically all men, esp. non-white ones, LUSTED after White women. My own brother, and my dad (though he's still married to my Black mom), too. It was hurtful. My brother is 12 years older than me. He used to EXCLUSIVELY date White women. My dad would visibly lust after those women. And all other men too. So growing up, i decided I'll ONLY date White men, because i know how ,on the inside, most of these men (including my brother who is HIGHLY successful) will reject the best of Black girls for her colour. I'd rather not be someone's compromise or second choice. I'll date only White guys so that i can be assured they find me attractive for having Black skin, or finding me exotic..instead of because they "couldn't land a White girl". I am trying to make myself prettier and I'm in University, now. I date only White men. I have straight hair, I'm thin, i speak properly and do my best in studies because i want to be rich and be able to live happy, and get revenge on those who made me feel less because I'm a Black woman. Do you have any advice for me (only answer if you're older than at least 35-40)? How do i become a successful, rich, pretty Black girl who can attract White guys easily?
    62 answers · 1 day ago
  • My dad wont give me back my ipod back?

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  • I don’t know what to do with my son and how he treats me?

    My son is 19 and his gf is 16 and she pregnant with a boy. He told me when he found out that if I recommend circumcision he will send me to the ER and get a restraining order. He hates me for that and a few years ago he got some tugging device for it and I threw it out and he got MAD. Her (K) and her parents hate... show more
    My son is 19 and his gf is 16 and she pregnant with a boy. He told me when he found out that if I recommend circumcision he will send me to the ER and get a restraining order. He hates me for that and a few years ago he got some tugging device for it and I threw it out and he got MAD. Her (K) and her parents hate me. They were nice at first and then cause they love my son so much they hate me cause of probably what he told them. I also think he’s bisexual (his internet history when he was younger and the way he hung around other boys and girls too and he acted gay when he was little but doesn’t anymore). K is also racist (she’s Hispanic) and called me white trash. She said she’ll be the mother I can’t be. My son also hates that I didn’t tell him he had Asperger when he was little and told his sister and talked to her about some of his issues before even him and claims I favor her (it’s not that he was just always harder to love) he also threatened to shoot my husband if he came near his gf or son. Also they live in a little apartment in a ghetto part of Pennsylvania I don’t wanna say where but near philly and he got mad when I said it wasn’t safe to raise a kid there. He also hates my dead dad and spread lies about what a bad man and child beater he was. (After he died he could not be bothered with anything about him) and didn’t cry at all. My son also smokes pot at least once a week and drinks. He implies I’m stupid all the time how stupid I am and I can’t take it?
    23 answers · 1 day ago
  • I dislike my mom?

    I am 15 (a girl if that matters), and right now I am just really angry at my mom. She always tells people I am feeling upset or mad about things I am fine with just because she disagrees with them, she forces me into situations to "help me" when in reality they don't help at all, she assumes I have... show more
    I am 15 (a girl if that matters), and right now I am just really angry at my mom. She always tells people I am feeling upset or mad about things I am fine with just because she disagrees with them, she forces me into situations to "help me" when in reality they don't help at all, she assumes I have depression when I don't just because I sleep in and like to stay in my room (I have three brothers, it is a mad house out there, no way am I going to other rooms of the house), and when I try to tell her I don't and try to reason with her, she continues thinking I do anyways and tells family members and friends. How do I reason with her? I am beginning to think she doesn't even care how I feel, I mean, I used to think she was just looking out for me but it has gone way too far past that point. Recently, we had planned for me to meet up with some of my friends who live two hours away (I can't drive there on my own since I don't have a license, and they were coming into town anyways so them and their mom were gonna take me on their way back) , she got the dates wrong and I ended up not being able to go (I was okay with it) and instead of recognizing that there was just some miscommunication, she got mad at their mom and started talking about how it hurt my feelings that I wasn't able to go and that they told her the wrong dates (they were the right dates). How do I handle her? Every time I try to talk to her about things like this she gets mad.
    7 answers · 1 day ago
  • My mum wants to kick me out and have another baby Because she dont get any money from CSA anymore?

    Im 17 and my mum wants to kick me out as she no longer gets money from CSA?shes planning on having another baby so she gets the money back! However i want to live with my friend but my mum said she will get the police involved. Shes kicking me out so surely she cant do that!
    Im 17 and my mum wants to kick me out as she no longer gets money from CSA?shes planning on having another baby so she gets the money back! However i want to live with my friend but my mum said she will get the police involved. Shes kicking me out so surely she cant do that!
    10 answers · 1 day ago
  • Would you kick out your nephew?

    Best answer: Like they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I'm curious about what was said to him when you let him in. Did you write this out as a contract with a final deadline date or was this just a friendly chat? I have a horrible feeling it was more like the latter!. Also, is there any stipulation... show more
    Best answer: Like they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I'm curious about what was said to him when you let him in. Did you write this out as a contract with a final deadline date or was this just a friendly chat? I have a horrible feeling it was more like the latter!. Also, is there any stipulation about jobs and contributing to family income? Finally, whose family "side" does he come from?

    I ask because what happens next is mainly the responsibility of the spouse whose relative he is. The biggest risk here is to your marriage, so if this is your relative, your wife is going to start resenting you for this mess. If it's her, you'll start resenting. So one of you owes it to the other to come down much harder on this nephew, including kicking him out.

    People are telling you to kick him out, but it's not as easy as it sounds. If he refuses to go, in most states this involves a court hearing (this all started as a way to protect tenants rights).

    You have 2 choices. If you want to give him one last chance, you've got to step up your game. Write up a contract with specific dates, like he needs to be employed w/in 5 days. He needs to give X percent of his income to you. He's to help with chores around the house, including his laundry. Get him to agree and sign this.

    If he gives you lip, or you're at the point where you're past this, then try kicking him out. If he refuses to leave, then you have to make it much more difficult for him to live there. This will be unpleasant for both of you, but you're out of options. Find a way to not give him access to your food, even if it means putting a lock on the refrig. Obviously, stop cooking for him. Dinner is for the 2 of you, and if he gets obnoxious or tries taking it anyway, call the cops. He's stealing from you.

    If he has a key to your place, try to snag it where he keeps it (it's not stealing, because it's your property). If this doesn't work, change the locks and don't give him a new key. Tell him you'll let him back in until 8 pm and after that you won't. If he stands at the front door yelling, call the cops.

    I know all this sounds extreme, but don't forget, he thinks of you and your wife as easy marks and he's taking advantage of you. You can "love" him as a relative but hate him as a person, and this is where you need to be.
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  • What are insufffiecnment funds?

    Best answer: It means that you do not have the money or do not have the entire amount of money that you are trying to spend on a debit or credit card.
    Best answer: It means that you do not have the money or do not have the entire amount of money that you are trying to spend on a debit or credit card.
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  • Is lusting over your child sexual abuse?

    Best answer: He's already been sexually abusing you for years with grossly inappropriate touching. You can get him stopped and get help for yourself by telling a teacher, a nurse, a doctor, a police officer, call 911, call Child Protective Services, tell them what's been happening to you. Don't bother telling your... show more
    Best answer: He's already been sexually abusing you for years with grossly inappropriate touching. You can get him stopped and get help for yourself by telling a teacher, a nurse, a doctor, a police officer, call 911, call Child Protective Services, tell them what's been happening to you.
    Don't bother telling your mother. Chances are she's well aware of what her husband's been doing to you and either doesn't care to stop it or blames you (you are NOT at fault). He is NOT being playful --- he is a sexual predator. I've seen many mothers abandon their kids like this. Get help and get out of there as soon as possible.
    24 answers · 4 days ago
  • Found my 17 year old sisters vodka. What do I do?

    So my sister stole ten dollars from me while I was sleeping and while I was home alone I snooped through her room and found vodka. She is a douche to me (as you can see by the fact she took my money, plus she hits me for no reason), so I was thinking I should tell or maybe even make her pay me off. What should I do?
    So my sister stole ten dollars from me while I was sleeping and while I was home alone I snooped through her room and found vodka. She is a douche to me (as you can see by the fact she took my money, plus she hits me for no reason), so I was thinking I should tell or maybe even make her pay me off. What should I do?
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  • Should I tell my girlfriend that I have a daughter?

    I had a daughter with a woman I met when I was studying in Germany. She's 5 and she lives with her mother. I visit her a couple of times every year. I haven't told my girlfriend because the girl lives far away and she will probably never meet her. Besides, I want to open a new chapter in my life. The past... show more
    I had a daughter with a woman I met when I was studying in Germany. She's 5 and she lives with her mother. I visit her a couple of times every year. I haven't told my girlfriend because the girl lives far away and she will probably never meet her. Besides, I want to open a new chapter in my life. The past is the past.
    60 answers · 5 days ago
  • My stepmom moved in after my dad died, he left her with nothing, & now she thinks I owe her something. Can I evict her from my home?

    My father invested badly and lost almost everything. She was hoping to inherit a fortune, but that was lost due to my father's business practices and investments. How can I get it through her head that what I have I had worked hard for and I'm not going to compensate her for my father's bad decisions.
    My father invested badly and lost almost everything. She was hoping to inherit a fortune, but that was lost due to my father's business practices and investments. How can I get it through her head that what I have I had worked hard for and I'm not going to compensate her for my father's bad decisions.
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  • HELP I FOUND NUDES ON MY MUMS PHONE AND IM REALLY GROSSED OUT!!?

    I was have a tooth ache so I asked my mum to take a photo of my teeth and once I deleted the photo I went into deleted album on her iPhone and saw a pic on her v*gina and we both just kinda pretended it wast there I gave her my phone back but I can’t get over it ,it makes me feel sick no child should have to see... show more
    I was have a tooth ache so I asked my mum to take a photo of my teeth and once I deleted the photo I went into deleted album on her iPhone and saw a pic on her v*gina and we both just kinda pretended it wast there I gave her my phone back but I can’t get over it ,it makes me feel sick no child should have to see his mother’s bits
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  • How do I tell my mother that I think she s going through menopause?

    So I m pretty sure my mom is going through menopause because she s been being really mean to my sister (lashed out at her, blamed her for everything, told her to never come back in her house ever again, etc.), she filed for a divorce with her husband, my stepdad, with whom she has a perfectly happy marriage with... show more
    So I m pretty sure my mom is going through menopause because she s been being really mean to my sister (lashed out at her, blamed her for everything, told her to never come back in her house ever again, etc.), she filed for a divorce with her husband, my stepdad, with whom she has a perfectly happy marriage with because she thinks that he hates her, and shes freaking selling all of our cats (who she loves very very much). Plus she s always dealt with depression and I m really worried about her state of mind and I d like to get her on medication and to get her to see a therapist but I don t know how to approach her about it without her getting offended or having her feelings hurt :( (btw shes not on her period thanks)
    14 answers · 3 days ago
  • I spoilt my sister engagement party by getting drunk and throwing a drink over someone, now I am being punished is this fair ?

    a couple of weeks ago I came home drunk ( I AM UNDERAGE ) my parents went mad and said I could only attend my sisters engagement party at our house if I promise NOT to touch alcohol, my parents warned me if I did there would be SEVERE repocussions. Anyway I got drunk at the party and became rude and nasty to some... show more
    a couple of weeks ago I came home drunk ( I AM UNDERAGE ) my parents went mad and said I could only attend my sisters engagement party at our house if I promise NOT to touch alcohol, my parents warned me if I did there would be SEVERE repocussions. Anyway I got drunk at the party and became rude and nasty to some of the guest, I even had a row with a girl and throw a drink over her, my parents and sister said I had RUINED the entire party. MY PUNISHMENT, I am now confined to my bedroom for the next 2 weeks I am NOT allowed out of my room ( EXCEPT BATHROOM ) and my bedroom door is kept LOCKED with a key at ALL times, my tv , phone stereo etc have all been taken away, I have internet because I hid my tablet under my bed , all I am allowed is school books, this is the first week of the school holidays and I am spending it LOCKED UP I am miserable, we are having a heatwave and I am caged in my room IS THIS FAIR ? DO YOU THINK MY PUNISHMENT IS TOO LONG ?
    10 answers · 1 day ago
  • Why is my older brother so lazy?

    My older brother is 2 years older than me he is 20. He plays games all day (like all day and never sleeps) he also eats a lot of junk food and still lives at home. Whenever my friend and I go to the store we ask him does he want anything, but when he goes tot he store he never asks us. He just sits back and plays... show more
    My older brother is 2 years older than me he is 20. He plays games all day (like all day and never sleeps) he also eats a lot of junk food and still lives at home. Whenever my friend and I go to the store we ask him does he want anything, but when he goes tot he store he never asks us. He just sits back and plays games and doesn't have a job or go to college. Plus he watches movies a lot and gets money off our mother. The only money he makes is like $30-40 dollars like each month cutting our aunts yard or do stuff online for paypal money but spends all his money on snacks and games. And he complains that he has a little bit of money int he bank and needs money to pay its monthly fee.
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is San Francisco a good place to raise children and live?

    Best answer: With the average price of a house being over a million dollars, leaving thousands of people living in the streets, and currently it being a magnet to criminal illegals, and the drug culture...maybe not.
    Best answer: With the average price of a house being over a million dollars, leaving thousands of people living in the streets, and currently it being a magnet to criminal illegals, and the drug culture...maybe not.
    7 answers · 1 day ago
  • Why do I feel so bad about myself?

    Hello, I’m 21 years old. I am currently in nursing school at UT and I work a retail job 35 hours a week. I am exhausted. On my days off I volunteer at the hospital. I still live with my mom because I save all my money to pay for my education. I don’t want to graduate with loans and my mom doesn’t help me pay for... show more
    Hello, I’m 21 years old. I am currently in nursing school at UT and I work a retail job 35 hours a week. I am exhausted. On my days off I volunteer at the hospital. I still live with my mom because I save all my money to pay for my education. I don’t want to graduate with loans and my mom doesn’t help me pay for school. My mom expects me to do something everyday, and when I don’t meet that expectation she gets mad at me. I’m in my third year of college, I had made straight A’s all the way through until I recently got one B+ in my first semester of nursing school. My mom was very disappointed in me. I feel like my mom sets the bar too high and when I can’t meet expectations I feel very badly about myself. How do I boost my confidence? I feel like I haven’t achieved as much as I am supposed to and I’m not sure if I even will feel satisfied.
    15 answers · 3 days ago