• Should I tell my girlfriend that I have a daughter?

    I had a daughter with a woman I met when I was studying in Germany. She's 5 and she lives with her mother. I visit her a couple of times every year. I haven't told my girlfriend because the girl lives far away and she will probably never meet her. Besides, I want to open a new chapter in my life. The past... show more
    I had a daughter with a woman I met when I was studying in Germany. She's 5 and she lives with her mother. I visit her a couple of times every year. I haven't told my girlfriend because the girl lives far away and she will probably never meet her. Besides, I want to open a new chapter in my life. The past is the past.
    46 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is lusting over your child sexual abuse?

    my stepdad lusts over me. no denying it. he has never touched me, besides the odd *** slap. whenever he hugs me he puts his hands under the bottom of my shirt, but he’s been doing that since i was 9. i’m 16 now. he makes jokes about us sleeping together and him leaving my mom for me, but that is just our family’s... show more
    my stepdad lusts over me. no denying it. he has never touched me, besides the odd *** slap. whenever he hugs me he puts his hands under the bottom of my shirt, but he’s been doing that since i was 9. i’m 16 now. he makes jokes about us sleeping together and him leaving my mom for me, but that is just our family’s sense of humour. i will repeat myself, he has never touched me. the eyes he looks at me with are not the eyes of a father. i am 16, he is almost 45. is this considered sexual abuse? i understand it’s wrong, but i don’t want to label my situation wrong
    13 answers · 22 hours ago
  • My stepmom moved in after my dad died, he left her with nothing, & now she thinks I owe her something. Can I evict her from my home?

    My father invested badly and lost almost everything. She was hoping to inherit a fortune, but that was lost due to my father's business practices and investments. How can I get it through her head that what I have I had worked hard for and I'm not going to compensate her for my father's bad decisions.
    My father invested badly and lost almost everything. She was hoping to inherit a fortune, but that was lost due to my father's business practices and investments. How can I get it through her head that what I have I had worked hard for and I'm not going to compensate her for my father's bad decisions.
    23 answers · 1 day ago
  • Why do I feel so bad about myself?

    Hello, I’m 21 years old. I am currently in nursing school at UT and I work a retail job 35 hours a week. I am exhausted. On my days off I volunteer at the hospital. I still live with my mom because I save all my money to pay for my education. I don’t want to graduate with loans and my mom doesn’t help me pay for... show more
    Hello, I’m 21 years old. I am currently in nursing school at UT and I work a retail job 35 hours a week. I am exhausted. On my days off I volunteer at the hospital. I still live with my mom because I save all my money to pay for my education. I don’t want to graduate with loans and my mom doesn’t help me pay for school. My mom expects me to do something everyday, and when I don’t meet that expectation she gets mad at me. I’m in my third year of college, I had made straight A’s all the way through until I recently got one B+ in my first semester of nursing school. My mom was very disappointed in me. I feel like my mom sets the bar too high and when I can’t meet expectations I feel very badly about myself. How do I boost my confidence? I feel like I haven’t achieved as much as I am supposed to and I’m not sure if I even will feel satisfied.
    12 answers · 7 hours ago
  • My Grandpa is rude and selfish, is it normal for people his age and health condition to act him or how should we deal with him?

    Best answer: You should never be too busy for your family. Spend time with him. Find a museum or ball game he may enjoy with you. Put a smile on the old man’s face!
    Best answer: You should never be too busy for your family. Spend time with him. Find a museum or ball game he may enjoy with you. Put a smile on the old man’s face!
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • My grandma PASSED AWAY?

    Best answer: And this is the venue you come to seek sympathy from?
    Best answer: And this is the venue you come to seek sympathy from?
    21 answers · 2 days ago
  • What should I do tell my brother?

    He has been staying over at my place for the last 2 weeks. He some days comes over and some days doesn t. I love him to death but he isn t paying me any rent or pitching in. I work full-time, attend online college courses and sometimes he comes over at 1-3 a.m expecting me to open the door. I m getting really tired... show more
    He has been staying over at my place for the last 2 weeks. He some days comes over and some days doesn t. I love him to death but he isn t paying me any rent or pitching in. I work full-time, attend online college courses and sometimes he comes over at 1-3 a.m expecting me to open the door. I m getting really tired of this and it just hit me that I m being used. I bought him food today and he said something rude that really annoyed me and I think it s from that. Should I ask him to leave? He doesn t work, doesn t want to pay rent, he just smokes weed with his friends and doesn t come till midnight. I m unsure if he s coming over tonight. He has his clothes and stuff here and I m really close to throwing it out.
    11 answers · 18 hours ago
  • If a 40 year old man dates an immature 21 year old girl who looks 13-14 is he a closet pedophile?

    She is incredibly immature. She cannot spell to save her life and she is from the suburbs, lives in her parents nice home yet she talks in slang terms. Her grammar is awful and she talks like she is in a gang despite living in an affluent neigborhood with her 2 married parents who dote on her. She complains that... show more
    She is incredibly immature. She cannot spell to save her life and she is from the suburbs, lives in her parents nice home yet she talks in slang terms. Her grammar is awful and she talks like she is in a gang despite living in an affluent neigborhood with her 2 married parents who dote on her. She complains that life is too hard and she shouldn't have to do her own laundry or work part time while in college. She is obsessed with memes and facebook and writing long rants about how life is so unfair and she has the hardest life of anyone she knows. The girl is spoiled rotten, her parents baby her and gave her a car, free rent, free college. All she has to do is pay for her car insurance and her food and she thinks its the end of the world. She looks like she is 14 years old at the very oldest. She listens to trap music and the horrible artists that do nothing but swear and say words that rhyme and she is the type that makes snapchat vidoes of her making duckfaces with those songs playing in background. A typical phrase for her is something like "im so sick of life lol, when ur parents tell you have to pay insurance, now wonder people drink or commit suicide, i work just to hand my money to bills, thank god for weed and beer, ugggh" To reiterate she looks 14, she could pass for an 8th grader, she's 4'11 and wears childish clothes as well
    13 answers · 1 day ago
  • Is it fair for me to be annoyed by my sister?

    For context I’m 17. My sister is 24 and still lives at home. I love her but I’m getting more and more annoyed with her. For the past 3 years she’s talked about how she’s “planning” to move out - yet she doesn’t even have a job. She mooches off of everyone, and has even tried to borrow money from me. My issue is... show more
    For context I’m 17. My sister is 24 and still lives at home. I love her but I’m getting more and more annoyed with her. For the past 3 years she’s talked about how she’s “planning” to move out - yet she doesn’t even have a job. She mooches off of everyone, and has even tried to borrow money from me. My issue is that I get no alone time unless I’m shut in my room. She wakes up at noon and sits on the computer all day. Her computer is by the front door too, so she sees everyone leave & come home. I feel crowded in, and unless I leave I get no time away from her. She doesn’t really leave or have friends. I’m working this summer, and any time I come home shes THERE. I get frustrated feeling like I can’t even go to the kitchen & make food without her noticing & trying to talk to me. She stays up really late as well, until like 2 am. Is it fair for me to be annoyed that my sister is always home when she should have a job?
    9 answers · 6 hours ago
  • How do I get my parents to accept that I am moving to Chicago ?

    Best answer: You're 19,,, send them a postcard from Chicago after you get there.
    Best answer: You're 19,,, send them a postcard from Chicago after you get there.
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • Should I move to Texas with my sister and her boyfriend?

    I currently am 13 and live in a toxic household. CPS has been called on my parents multiple times but nothing has happened because they didn’t have enough evidence. My mom stole drugs from her mother and gets drunk all the time, my father drinks and screams at us. My sister got kicked out and is living with my moms... show more
    I currently am 13 and live in a toxic household. CPS has been called on my parents multiple times but nothing has happened because they didn’t have enough evidence. My mom stole drugs from her mother and gets drunk all the time, my father drinks and screams at us. My sister got kicked out and is living with my moms mom. She will be moving to Texas with her boyfriend after she graduates this coming year. Thy offered me to live with them but all my friends live up here in Oregon, but I don’t want to live with my parents. They scream and yell at me for no reason. This whole situation has caused me to feel suicidal and depressed. Thank you!
    21 answers · 3 days ago
  • How do I tell my parents and our neighbors that I cannot babysit a 4 year old girl anymore?

    I’m a 16 year old girl. This little girl suddenly started acting inappropriately and violent when she wasn’t like this before. She takes her clothes off in public and dances inappropriately, for example. It’s embarassing. I can’t handle her, if I try, she gets violent. People stare at us in utter shock, like they... show more
    I’m a 16 year old girl. This little girl suddenly started acting inappropriately and violent when she wasn’t like this before. She takes her clothes off in public and dances inappropriately, for example. It’s embarassing. I can’t handle her, if I try, she gets violent. People stare at us in utter shock, like they can’t believe what they just saw or heard from a preschooler. Her wording is pretty bizarre too. She has knowledge about threatening people that are beyond her years, etc. She doesn’t have any older siblings nor do I watch anything bad in front of her. It gradually started within the last month or so. I just can’t do it any more, she’s gotten too much to handle. Again, the behaviours are way beyond her typical age and typical knowledge. It’s more like dealing with a swearing 11 year old now.
    9 answers · 10 hours ago
  • Is my mum being unfair?

    It’s nearly 2:20am and my mum is keeping me awake with the TV in. I have to wake up at 8am tomorrow to go to work. She knows that, but it feels like she doesn’t care. I’ve texted her several times to either turn it down or turn it off. The last reply I got was “just watching a few more mins then it’ll be off xx”...... show more
    It’s nearly 2:20am and my mum is keeping me awake with the TV in. I have to wake up at 8am tomorrow to go to work. She knows that, but it feels like she doesn’t care. I’ve texted her several times to either turn it down or turn it off. The last reply I got was “just watching a few more mins then it’ll be off xx”... that was over an hour ago. I then went downstairs a few minutes ago to ask her why she still hasn’t turned the TV off, and she replied “stop badgering me, I can turn the TV off when I want”. She then shooed me upstairs, continued to watch TV and told me not to message her about it again. Do you think she’s being unfair?
    8 answers · 1 hour ago
  • Sister in law naked?

    9 answers · 16 hours ago
  • What do you think about my real mom?

    I'm 23 and an only child. She doesn't care if I work or not. She still wakes up me for school and only asks if I'm going to school. She hands me everything and lets me freeload. Whenever I buy something, she reimburses me, when it was her money in the first place. She never taught me about work,... show more
    I'm 23 and an only child. She doesn't care if I work or not. She still wakes up me for school and only asks if I'm going to school. She hands me everything and lets me freeload. Whenever I buy something, she reimburses me, when it was her money in the first place. She never taught me about work, responsibilities, or anything about the real world, really. She never taught me how to communicate with people. I got a job voluntarily when I was 18 and she didn't like it and she got mad at me. Until I was 19, She never made me wash a single spoon, never made me wash my own clothes, clean the house, make my own bed, never let me have a boyfriend. never let her go anywhere by myself. She picked her up from school everyday and we went straight home. It's like she wants me all to herself, for the rest of her life.
    8 answers · 6 hours ago
  • Is it okay to show that I love my 16 year old daughter way more than her 22 year old sister?

    For one thing, the 16 year old doesn’t try to be a mentally grown adult. She is so peacemaking, unlike her sister. The older child is annoying! She goes clubbing on a Friday night and if something bad happens at those wild places, she might just come home crying...she’s so opinionated and THINKS she’s mentally... show more
    For one thing, the 16 year old doesn’t try to be a mentally grown adult. She is so peacemaking, unlike her sister. The older child is annoying! She goes clubbing on a Friday night and if something bad happens at those wild places, she might just come home crying...she’s so opinionated and THINKS she’s mentally adult, but her behaviour is still like a teenager sometimes. I find myself badmouthing her to my 16 year old a lot. My daughter seemingly agrees that she can be a burden. The younger one, meanwhile, is at home peacefully reading a book or finishing up schoolwork. She barely starts conflicts with me about money, college, friendships and boyfriends.
    8 answers · 9 hours ago
  • What'd you think of a woman who QUITS her high- paying job after having babies?

    And by high-paying, i mean higher paying than her husband (who also earns well but less than her). And no, not even maternity leave-- she quits work forever... (You DO know that such jobs need loads of dedication/struggle in your University years) What'd you think of this woman? (This woman's my sister)
    And by high-paying, i mean higher paying than her husband (who also earns well but less than her). And no, not even maternity leave-- she quits work forever... (You DO know that such jobs need loads of dedication/struggle in your University years) What'd you think of this woman? (This woman's my sister)
    48 answers · 6 days ago
  • Can you do anything about a family member on drugs?

    My sister (60) and niece (26) are homeless and live in another state. Over the last 2 years they have "borrowed" money from everyone in our family until we have all realized there is a severe drug problem with them. They are now reaching out to family and family friends, ex co-workers, etc. some... show more
    My sister (60) and niece (26) are homeless and live in another state. Over the last 2 years they have "borrowed" money from everyone in our family until we have all realized there is a severe drug problem with them. They are now reaching out to family and family friends, ex co-workers, etc. some extremely distant. They are telling them blatant lies and "borrowing" money which of course the person will never see again. Is there anything we can do about them? Will the authorities do anything? I think this is scamming, can that be reported?
    10 answers · 1 day ago