Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

who's had a threesome and wants to share their experience?

Just wondering about other people's experiences in this situation. How they came about and how they went.

14 Answers

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favourite answer

    no ur not invited two men is wrong has to be two women

  • luzell
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    Threesome Experience

  • 1 decade ago

    My wife and I have been married almost 20 years. Before our relationship we both had some threesome experience. I had one mfm with a previous partner of mine and she was the third person in a soft-swinging fmf threesome. After we were married a few years we had a few threesomes and cuckolds. Our experience has been positive and we have remained married. However not every couple that have threesomes are as successful as us. The main thing to remember threesomes involve risk, uncertainty, and just because you have a good experience once does not mean it will always be the case. In order to have a threesome both of you need to make a commitment to each to work through the issues, be mature enough not to use the experience against each other, and put aside jealous feelings. It takes allot to have sex with someone else while your partner watches and it takes allot to watch your partner having sex with someone else. Nothing can fully prepare you for that and it takes allot of talking to get you to the point where you can cope with it. If you are able to that while keeping your lines of communication open then you are on your way to having a chance at having a successful threesome. My advice is if you are considering having a threesome take it slow, talk it through, and do not push each other into it.

  • 1 decade ago

    My husband and I got drunk one night and it just happened. I trusted the girl it was with and I fully trust and love my husband so I had no problem with it happening. I also believe that if you trust each other enough and love each other and their is good communication especially about what each of you expects from the other, then it is alright. If however the reasons for having a threesome are that one or the other is currently dissatisfied, I do not suggest going that route. I know a couple who did and they got divorced cause when the one who was dissatisfied found someone better, they left. Every couple is different and it all depends on each one and what they want in their relationship. There are pros and cons to consider. Good luck if you are considering it.

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  • 1 decade ago

    there are so many negative people on this subject. 80% or better, want to experience a threesome but are not solid enough in their relationship to ask their partner. my wife and i have been having threesomes for the past 6 years and never once have either of us regretted it. there was a guy on this site that was always putting people down for doing threesomes. he e-mailed me on the subject. we finally exchanged phone# and we met. that was a night he will never forget. anyway, he finally brought the idea up to his wife and lo and behold, he finally got his wish.

  • 1 decade ago

    We've had many threesomes, but FMF and MFM, and with the exception of one they've all been incredibly fun.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago


    It was a little awkward at first, but once we let our inhibitions go, it was magnificent!!! It was several years ago and we have had several more since... Just be open and communicate what you expect from the experience and you should be fine!!!

    Hope This Helps!


  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    How was yours? Mine are always exciting. Sure do eat a lot of breakfast in the morning though. Oh that reminded me I having another one tonight, got to go. Need some bacon and eggs for morning. Chow !

  • 1 decade ago

    First off, I guess that I should admit that I am a bisexual crossdresser, and was totally honest with my girfriend about the situation up front. She was Accepting of both, even to the point of buying me clothes and going out all dressed up together.

    Although I was bisexual, I did not have relationships on the side, but she was aware of the past ones I Had had, I guess this sort of made it easy for me to introduce her to the idea of a threesome. We had many fantasies that we would think of while having sex, and mine seemed to always involve another man.

    We had been together for 8 years before I finally made my move. I asked her if I could invite another guy over one evening, for me to play with. I told her that she was more than welcome to stay and watch, and made it clear that if she wanted to join in that it would be ok.

    She is totally straight, but is ok with my other side. When she agreed to let me invite someone over, I was so happy and felt even closer to her. We both understood that love was not what I was seeking, but rather the experience of living out some of the fantasies we had been sharing. For her to allow me this, made me love her even more.

    I took a few weeks to find just the right guy, and he just so happened to be a crossdresser as well. He and I talked quite a bit before the big night, and even met a few times. It was clear that we both eventually wanted my gf to join in.

    He was quite surprised that I could allow someone to touch my gf in that way. I explained just how truly thankful I was for her to let me live out my fantasies, and how I felt it only fair to allow her to experience hers as well. And because she had no interest in being with another woman, and was excited by being with a man, it was the only reasonable option. Of course she was very conservative and did not express a true desire in going through with it, even though she was allowing me to do so.

    I guess it was the many talks we had and the understanding that we we were simply exploring something new, and if it didn't work out, we wouldn't have to do it any more. It was made very clear to all, that limits must be respected, and falling into love was not an option. We were very much in love, and felt comfortable enough to know that nothing and no one could ever come between us. I suggested that our new friend be nothing more than a boy toy for us to play with as we saw fit. Of course we took his fantasies into consideration as well, and were willling to help him live out his as well. And most of those by the way, involved my gf. I told him that he had my permission to do whatever he wanted to do with her, as long as she agrees. Bottom line, it would be up to him to see how comfortable he could make her.

    It took a couple visits before she finally joined in. I really wasn't sure how I would take it the first time, but it ended up being the most exciting thing we had ever had. Although she initally was a bit nervous, it wasn't long before I don't even think she knew if I was in the room or not when she was with him. She was obviously was enjoying herself, which made me happy for her, I even left them alone on numerous occasions so that she could relax a bit more. I wish I could go into greater detail about the various scenarios we got involved in, because they were all experiences I will never ever forget.

    As our visits continued, sometimes it was just he and I, he and her, or all of us together. Whatever we did, it was the most exciting time we had ever had. He always checked with me first on things he wanted to do with her, and eventually, I just told him that he had my permission to do whatever the two of them agreed to, and that he should talk to her about things he wanted to do, I was always positive towards my gf and told her to just have fun with him... to have all the fun she wanted to. Let me tell you, it was intense, I even allowed them to meet at other locations by themselves. It was as if she was living out the fantasy of having an affair, yet it was always ok with me.

    By allowing them, to be alone, I guess it allowed her to feel totally relaxed without worrying about what I was thinking. My only request was for her to have the time of her life. She also, by the way, allowed he and I to meet each other at various locations as well too. And when I came home, she would always kid me a bit about what we had done. Not knowing what may occur after us getting involved with him, I must say it was the most exciting time of our lives and brought us even closer together.

    For it to work, you must go into it with the right mindset, and realizae what the purpose of it all is. As long as all 3 of us maintained a murtual respect towards each other, feel free to have fun! And we did... oh boy did we ever!

  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    when you see your significant other with the other person it's almost inevitable you'll be jealous and things won't ever be the same again. don't do it unless you want to ruin your marriage.

  • 1 decade ago

    are u married, if so u wont be long after u have a threesome, it will destroy ur relationship

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