Seems you may have gotten married to the wrong man, If it ain't happening in the bed it ain't happening...period.Now you got yourself in quite the predicament. You either
A. Tell hubby you need mindblowing sex from him
B.Get mindblowing sex from ex ie. cheat :(
C. Get over yourself cause you married this man and LOVE should be the reason for your love making not your animal urges.
I am all for awesome sex, but a lifetime with a total jerk ain't worth repeated mindblowing orgasims(gasp) You need to realize these are 2 very different men, and you should realize the sex is also very different and always will be, you will never feel with you hubby what you felt with your ex, but that doesn't mean sex can't be great, you gotta find what works for the 2 of you once you do it'll a million times better than your ex ever was, because I bet your husband treats you well, unlike the jerky ex, Good luck