Because you are still thinking about it. You have to stop thinking about it, and its not going to happen overnight, it takes time. I was once gay for a few months and I had to get away from things like internet pornography and put myself around women more and the less I thought about it, the more I started becoming like my old self again. If you are constantly thinking sad thoughts, or living in a sad environment, you will become depressed. If you are constantly playing violent videogames, you will become desensitized to violence. Well the same can be said about being gay. I know from experience and definitely cured myself.
P.S. I think that people miss the connection. You connected listening to Madonna with being gay. But I think theres a link in the connection that people miss.
It's being open minded. That's the missing link.
Open Minded = Listening to Madonna
Open Minded = Thinking about being gay or trying something that you wouldn't normally try if you were close minded.
So I dont think you listen to madonna because you are gay, I think you listen to her because you are open minded, and people who are more open minded, are probably more likely to look at gay internet porn, or start questioning whether they are gay or if they could ever be gay. The more they think about it, the more they are open minded to it, the more the idea grows on them or they begin to enjoy it.
Just what I've noticed from my experience, just get your mind off it. There's like 100 times more gay people in the world now than there was 20 years ago. I don't think its because more people are coming out of the closet, I think that theres just more influences out there for open minded people to be susceptible too. There was no brokeback mountain movies, no internet, no "emo" style. The more influences there are, the more open minded people there are who will be influenced. Just my two cents.
· 1 decade ago