Hi There, you need to talk to her openly about your sex live togetherv- as there have been major changes - the twins, you being away. Ask her how she feels, what she wants. Tell her how you feel, what you want. Negotiate and come to something that works for both of you. And she might just be tired. Taking care of the kids is tough stuff. Plus, after giving birth, many women stop prioritising sex - because they are so focused on mothering. Keep making her feel great and keep making time alone for your sex lives. It's bound to get better.