The only meds that are consistenly helpful for anxiety disorders are the benzos, and they only work for a few months before you get too much tolerance to them. I would say you should get a therapist, and use benzos FOR THE SHORT term. Benzos are addictive and cause memory problems, and in some people, aggression, but if you use low doses for a short time, they may help you get enough therapy to control your anxiety problems by yourself.
the anxiety and phobia workbook by edmund bourne is a classic.
All the stuff that came out about how ineffective antidepressants are came out after he wrote the latest copy of his book. Google Kirsch antidepressants and Ioannidis antidepressants for more. you are being given a placebo that has side effects. You almost certainly will get severe sexual side effects from zoloft, which can affect your marriage, if applicable. for me, antidepressants vastly increased anxiety, which is not my main problem.