Do a mind shift and redirect your thoughts to the possibility of a friendship for beginners. Truly see this in your mind, Don't think about jumping her bones, yet. If she is kind, smiles, chats and is the touchy type, it may only mean it is her warm personality and she believes in being cordial and polite. It does not mean she feels a strong connection to you. She should be kind to a roommate, just as you would with co-workers. A lot of young inexperienced males and old fools tend to read this personality type wrong. And a lot of young women eventually will change this about themselves as they mature because unknowingly it was misunderstood.
Develop a friendship first and let her get to know you, you get to know her outside of the living space. Keep it super light and one morning say ''Let's go get a coffee,my treat'', or, ''I need a jogging partner,are you up for that?. Since you share the same space, engage her in an old fashioned board game, card game or learn to play chess together or teach her to play. This is a good way to reveal hidden character, past the smiley face.
Don't go out of your way getting personal or buying gifts while trying to develop a friendship. You would be pushing it then. Don't fix breakfast or act like you are in a relationship with her. Allow the potential of a friendship to grow because all you are now, is a roommate. If she is not interested in a friendship, she will turn you down but one diss does not mean much..at least try one more time. If she says no, respect that and remain cordial. No harm in trying to be friends and no hurt ego. Keep it light and friendly. Enjoy
· 4 months ago