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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 2 years ago

Is it too soon for sex?

I'm 3 months into a relationship with one of my bestfriends that I have known for years, I am a virgin but he isn't, we are very intimate and I think both of us are wanting to take the next step.

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  • Mike A
    Lv 6
    2 years ago
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    One of the reasons people say to wait on sex, is because sex can really cloud your judgement about people. If you meet someone, then rush right into bed with them, your mind is going to idealize them. It's going to make that person seem perfect for you, especially if they happen to be good in bed. It's all going to just feel like a fantasy, and you may not see it if they are just and awful person who's leading you on.

    When you already know the person, things are different. Friends who become romantic have the advantage that they don't need to go through all the steps of dating, to do anything more than observe formalities. Chances are, you got to know each other before you two clicked romantically. Normally, when strangers become interested that way, there has to be a long period of getting to know each other, and that's what all the steps of dating are really about.

    So, what needs to be done at this point to make sure you two are ready? You two need to discuss health history. Be sure you know if he's used protection with the girls he's been with before you. Look at contraception options and find the one that's right for you two. I myself am a big fan of condoms. They aren't 100% reliable, but fairly close. Make a plan for what you two are going to do if the condom breaks during sex. Plan B is a pill you can take up to two days after a failed condom. It forces you to get your period, but it doesn't work if you have actually become pregnant. It's hard on your body, and the pill is expensive, so it should only be an emergency measure.

    You also need to have a plan in place for what you two are going to do if you get pregnant. Pregnancy is a reality of hetero sex. Just about every girl and woman I know, who is sexually active, has at least pregnancy scares, and some have ended up pregnant and miscarried. If you learn the best way to track your cycle, and stay away from sex on your three most fertile days, you should be mostly safe. Random ovulations can happen, or even stress can throw your cycle off.

    So, once you get all the aforementioned handled, you two are ready. You can just go for it, because I can honestly not suggest a person who would be better to have your first time with than this guy.

    And that's the best advice I can give.

  • 2 years ago

    If both of you are ready to have sex and you use protection for STIs and for pregnancy (if that's a possibility in your relationship) then there's nothing wrong with having it. Just make the choice that's right for you and your partner.

  • 2 years ago

    It's not weird depending on your age

  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    Not until you're 70+.

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  • 2 years ago

    3 months? What have you been doing for so long? Yes, have sex with him, please. Sex is good for bounding and your physical health. Also, you cant have a proper relationship without sex.

  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    Yes, it's too soon. Are you married yet? If not, it's too soon.

    It is a sin to have sex outside of heterosexual marriage. Where I stand is not politically correct. It doesn't matter. What I said is the truth, according to the King James Bible.

  • kim
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    Sex is best in marriage you will find. Follow your faith.

  • 2 years ago

    No, you should wait.

  • 2 years ago

    Wait until at least a year because looking that is a very big deal.

  • 2 years ago

    No im surprised ur waiting so long

  • Alan H
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    If you need to ask....YES

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