I never placed my baby in bed with me at night. It had nothing at all to do with fear of SIDs or any other risk or issue. My reasons were completely based on knowing several couples who had allowed their newborn baby to share the bed with them and then ended up with multiple issues later when trying to teach the baby to sleep in their own bed or in their own room. I know of several couples that still had two and three year old children that would end up in the parent's bed every night because they never learned to sleep in their own room and their own bed. (not just some nights - every night) I even knew one woman who joked about needing to have sex in their child's room because their child was always sleeping in their room.
I absolutely did not want to need to teach my child to sleep in their own room. I based everything on independent sleeping from day one. From newborn to six months, the crib was in my bedroom, but they slept in their crib. At six months, I moved their crib into their own bedroom. Now, that does not mean I ignored my child's needs at night. There were many nights that I spent in their room rocking them or sitting with them because they were fussy. But it was me going to them, not them coming to my bed.
This is a very personal choice and you should do what you feel is right for you and your situation.
· 11 months ago