Life lessons learnt: Do good things, have a horrible life; do bad things, have everything you want and an easy time.
Be a martyr, get walked over. Be a ruthless self centred person and earn respect and be treated right.
My mum was the martyr: she's alone, poor, in terrible health, disabled, living in a shitty house with a semi- horrible daughter : me (as I've been told)
My dad is a ruthless narcissist and has a nice house, a nice family, lots of money, perfect pets that get along.
ME: I'm a mixture of the two but living the same life as my mother,, semi martyr, being a carer for her, but she says im not very good at it, so I have that and am getting back pain slowly but surely, just like she had when she was my age. It might get worse. I fear I may end up exactly like her if I continue to be a semi martyr. My life is not as bad as hers, so I'm presuming it's because I'm not 100% good like she is.