We have no real system of sex education. It is not just the physical parts, but those that involves being treated like a worthy/special person and treating anyone you are with the same way. Unfortunately the physical aspects require some knowledge that not all that many really have. That's why so many people write books about it ans so many read, but it's pretty silly taking something that can be beautiful from an instruction manual like you'd put a piece of knock down furniture together. If you are with someone you truly care about and who cares about you, being a virgin should be no big deal, but it the other person knows nothing, or is not knowledgeable, or skill full, it could be pretty terrible. In the Victorian Era and well beyond mean of means would take their son's to the local Brothel(s) where the boys would be taught hte "ropes" by an experienced professional who also cared about making her customers happy..Those days are ow gone. My first real girlfriend had been married 6 years before fleeing and getting divorced. It wasn't until she seduced me (I was reluctant and felt it too son - it was!).that I finally got why it's such a big deal. It was that incredible feeling of closeness that purely physical sex can't give. It is often enough to keep couples to gether fro a good while,or for their lifetimes. Unfortunately my first girlfriend was very skillful - not knowing even some of the most basic things to do as her husband was a brutal, perverted guy who just used her for his own gratification. It would cost a fortune, but "People who know go to a pro!" I was traveling cross country bt road a good whle ago ans was still a virgin at age 34. I was going through Nevada where Prostitution-is legal is some few places still. The whole "experience" was little different than going to get your hair cut by a female, or getting your teeth cleaned. There was no sense of shame as I knew the girls were earning their living there. I saw a couple (one out and one back to the East. Each was very human and understood that I was inexperienced and said they helped a lot of guys like me and took pride in their job. The also were clearly very human. The first complemented me when she did not have to take the time. She also made a few simple suggestions about how to please who I would be with for real. She got nothing extra for that. She was very sweet, gentle and kind. The next was more business like. The problem now is that
Aids was unknown back then and human t5rafficking not the problem it has become. For that reason I'd never go to a grungy, over priced "Spa, or Massage Parlor. My wife who was also divorced when I met her was very sheltered, but completely understood when I told her about my education. She was very unsure of herself in bed, but the fact that she truly wanted to be there with ME and she has told me, several times that I am very gentle and patient (That's just me.). We've had a truly loving and caring and sharing time in bed every time. Making love and not just having sex is a powerful way of communicating feelings. We have often just enjoyed being close without actually having sex for many reasons and it's way beyond the passionate making out stage. If you are with the right girl, she will understand, if you take sex seriously and prefer not being rushed into it.She will also ant to help and teach you, if she knows what she's doing. If she is also virgin,you will both enjoy learning together, but you will have to do some research in books, magazine and using reputable Internet Sites. But learning can be fun. Anyone who doesn't understand that isn't worth being with. After my first girlfriend, I was out with another divorced woman a few times and she was almost frantic to have sex,bu I didn't know her very well - saw her about once a week for 4 months and felt no closeness. So I ended. A friend had a mad affair with her for several years - meeting once a week for sex. She used it to keep him distant not draw closer. She said she wanted to remarry 37 years ago and went through a parade of guys. She single and alone at age 70 because she did not know how to truly care and make someone part of her life and be part of theirs!.