Would you play games and be distant, talk to her, or move on? Answer and I'll answer 1 for you!?

Me and this girl predated for 5 months (she said she didn't want to date over the holidays b/c of how her last bf treated her over the holidays the year before). Some friend drama happened in our group and she ended up breaking up. When she broke up, she said she thought I liked her more than she liked me. Days later she said she was embarrassed by what she said because she said she did like me "A LOT". Days later I told her how I felt and she said she didn't feel the same way she did in November. A few weeks ago (a month had passed) I told her I still liked and cared for her and asked how she felt. Her first words were "I don't know" and that she loves talking to me, spending time with me, likes me a lot, respects me, but that she needs to figure out who she is and that she doesn’t know if she can date anyone right now and that it probably doesn't make sense that it doesn't make sense to her mom or friend. She also has kept a snapchat streak of 40 days now with me and was upset when I broke it after we broke up. We recently went on a mission trip together and friends thought we were still together with how we talked, acted, and stayed around each other. What do you think?

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  • 1 year ago
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    Here's the thing man,

    Seems like this girl is into you since you said you were going out but broke up for some reason

    BUT the fact that you keep on telling her and revealing your feelings to her makes it seem like you are tryna push it too much into a relationship too soon for her.

    AS PROOF she keeps on telling you she likes you and might even act like it when she's around you but then you start randomly telling her how you feel about her out of nowhere and you come across as kinda needy and

    THAT'S WHERE she starts to second guess it with you by saying stuff like

    "I don't know" or "I liked you more back then than now" as excuses so she doesn't have to fully commit.

    See what I mean here?

    It might seem she hasn't recovered from her last relationship and yet your over here revealing your feelings to her like you want to start a relationship with her when she isn't ready.

    Not only that but you look needy and maybe even desperate when you start talking about how you feel about her, even if you aren't that's how she will interpret it.

    She might seem attracted to you but once you start showing those traits, that's why she stalls because she doesn't want to commit.

    She will in a way tell herself,

    if this is how he is acting now how will he be in the relationship.

    I mean noone wants to be in a relationship with a needy person.

    And based on her answers she doesn't want to commit to a relationship all at once.

    AND HERE'S ANOTHER TIP DUDE.

    How a girl feels one moment, is way different how she feels in another.

    She might be attracted to you at one moment and she might not the other.

    You might have heard that feelings are fickle and it's true.

    AND ALSO,

    What I'm trying to say here is don't push it too much.

    Don't try to make things official.

    Let her worry about that.

    What you should be doing is working on making her have a good time and just talk to her casually in a non needy or desperate way.

    AND IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW TO DO THAT OR WHAT YOUR NEXT MOVE ON HER SHOULD BE THEN YOU SHOULD WATCH THIS SHORT 10 MIN VID AT THIS LINK NOW. (((http://snip.ly/q1urxq)))

    Just copy and paste the link if you have to.

    The video will go more in depth on what you need to do and I...

    also recommend getting the free guide that has examples on what to say and how to get her attraction back.

    Good luck bro👍

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