As per Islam:
The husband is in charge of all the expenses of the house, as he is the leader of the household as Allah says in the Noble Quran in verse 4:34 and other parts. That means if the wife earns money, then it is her own money, and it doesn't need to be used for the house expenses or the family expenses, as that is the responsibility Allah gave to the husband.
Likewise, the chores of the household are generally split between the husband and wife according to their ability, they can split them how they like, but generally the wife spends more time with the children, cooking, cleaning, etc while the husband is out working and earning the money to pay the expenses. If the husband volunteers to do the other chores that are enjoined on the wife, then that would be a good deed for him as the Prophet (s) used to do this for his wives.
Regarding decision making, Allah orders wives to obey their husbands in verse 4:34. Obedience to a husband is a good deed, and the Islamic scholars state that if the husband is neglecting her rights but she still obeys him in matters he is not ordering her to disobey Allah, then this is one of the best deeds in Islam for which Allah rewards immensely. Prophet Muhammad (s) also mentioned that the woman who fasts Ramadan, prays her 5 daily prayers, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband will be able to enter Jannah from any of its gates (and there are only a few ways to earn this type of reward).
So, it is fine if the wife gives her opinions in matters and it is encouraged the husband listens to these opinions and considers them, but in the end, the final decision is his and the decision he makes, the wife has to obey so long as the decision does not contradict orders from Allah such as him ordering you to do evil for example.
Regarding women who deny their husband the relations of the bed without good reason (i.e. not feeling like it), Allah's Messenger (s) mentioned the angels will curse her (and the angels do not act except by Allah's command), so this is a sin in Islam and not allowed.
Lastly regarding your last statement, Allah mentions in the Noble Quran men and women are not equal (and that is simply the reality of it), Allah has given men an advance in authority and strength over women as mentioned in the Noble Quran. Hence, we have equity in Islam where certain responsibilities are given to each of the sexes that are best suited for them.
For example men are ordered to fight jihad, something women are exempted from. Allah's Messenger (s) ordered only men can be political leaders (i.e. imam, caliph, governor, etc), and that is because the leader needs to have experience in jihad, make orders that sometimes require harshness, etc all things better suited for men, and women are not expected to bear the burdens of these things for example.
So we have equity in Islam, not equality, the male and female sexes are different not the same not equal not in any regard no where on Earth.
So the points above are where I disagree with your statements, if you are Muslim, I shall warn you now to refrain from interpreting Islam on whims/desires western feminism ideals, etc that have nothing to do with Islam. The ONLY ones allowed to interpret Islam, are the Islamic scholars who have trained to do so, that means, it doesn't matter what you "think" should be done, since Allah mentions in the Quran you may like a thing that is bad and dislike a thing that is good.