Why are so many people rushing us into marriage?

My fiancé and I just got engaged very recently. And of course we were excited to share with friends and family. But instead of just wishes to enjoy our engagement, everyone is already asking about the wedding date. We literally just got engaged last month! We have a lot of planning to do. Not just for the... show more My fiancé and I just got engaged very recently. And of course we were excited to share with friends and family. But instead of just wishes to enjoy our engagement, everyone is already asking about the wedding date. We literally just got engaged last month! We have a lot of planning to do. Not just for the wedding, but a place to move into together. And when I tell people this they just say "well, you could elope." Or "why not just have a quick cheap wedding, then have a bigger one later?" Umm....or we could just enjoy being engaged for awhile? Why is everyone in such a hurry for us to get married? To us being engaged is another process in our relationship to be enjoyed. Why does everyone seem to want us to rush into making wedding plans? Or worse, hurry up and just get married, RIGHT after we got engaged? It's actually quite irritating...

Anyone else have this happen? What is so wrong with a couple wanting to be engaged for a year or so before getting married? And why does everyone care so much, in the first place, how quickly we marry?
Update: Brexit Ear, the funny thing is...it's not even really family as much as friends, co-workers, etc. And...we don't plan on having kids. So that will be a fun one. Haha!
Update 2: Helen, just because we're not ready for our actual wedding doesn't mean we aren't ready to be married. But we don't want to rush everything for everyone else's sake. We want to plan our wedding properly and not stress ourselves out trying to rush it. And I don't think a year long... show more Helen, just because we're not ready for our actual wedding doesn't mean we aren't ready to be married. But we don't want to rush everything for everyone else's sake. We want to plan our wedding properly and not stress ourselves out trying to rush it. And I don't think a year long engagement is that long.
Update 3: Maybe I should also rephrase what actually irritates me. It's not people asking when as much as people telling us we "should" do this or "should" do that. "You should elope!" "You should have a quick little wedding now and worry about a real one later." That's the... show more Maybe I should also rephrase what actually irritates me. It's not people asking when as much as people telling us we "should" do this or "should" do that. "You should elope!" "You should have a quick little wedding now and worry about a real one later." That's the part that I don't get...
Update 4: Well, that's great Kelly. But not everyone moves at the same pace. We tend to be more lax about things. And just because we don't have an official date set yet does not make us "not ready" for marriage. To us, what makes us ready is choosing each other every day. Knowing that this is the person... show more Well, that's great Kelly. But not everyone moves at the same pace. We tend to be more lax about things. And just because we don't have an official date set yet does not make us "not ready" for marriage. To us, what makes us ready is choosing each other every day. Knowing that this is the person I want to spend my life with. The fact we aren't quite ready to start spending thousands on a wedding hardly makes us less engaged.
Update 5: For those of you saying "wait until they ask you about the baby." I will actually have fun with that one. We do not plan on having kids.
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