Immediately get into a restaurant, a bar, someplace with people so you feel safe. Don't walk home, take a cab or Uber. It's not going "backwards;" just smart. It's what a man would do. After 50 years you've developed "an illusion of safety."
Liberated Lady, you and only you are responsible for your safety and the safety of your children. Buy a gun and learn to use it. Learn to defend yourself. Fill up with gas when your tank is at 1/4. Buy a taser, pepper spray, walk in groups, never walk alone at night or with someone who cannot protect you. Don't turn your car off unless you are getting out. Don't drive with the doors unlocked. "Smash and Grab" is real so keep your purse out of sight. Don't get out of your car, don't roll down the window more than two inches to talk. Never hitchhike or pick up hitchhikers. Most fathers teach their daughters these things very early in life.
I'm sorry that you think this is toxic masculinity. No matter what you do, this will always...always be the case.