Husband wants divorce out of nowhere I’m shocked?
My husband and I have been married 12 years. We have 2 daughters they are 9 and 7. My husband came home from work early today and told me out of nowhere he wanted a divorce. We haven’t had any real serious marital issues. He told me he only wanted 1 kid not 2 and that the children are now cramping his style. He told me he’s accepted a new job in California (we live in Minnesota) I had no idea he was even looking for new work!! I’m honestly in such shock and disbelief I’m shaking. Does anyone have any advice? I don’t even know where to start. I just found all of this out an hour ago!
- HurricainLv 75 months agoBest answer
Advice: Get a good lawyer. Don't worry about the cost...a good lawyer will stick your soon-to-be ex-husband with the bill, and a LOT more.
- SheilaKLv 45 months ago
Sounds like he is going through his second childhood. You are entitled to 1/2 of his pension, 1/2 of what the house is worth, 1/2 of any inheritances, 1/2 of the bank account and any money, child support with cost of living increases. If you have been a stay at home mom he is entitled to pay for ALL your schooling AND support you while going to school. Don't be his chump, the grass is not greener on the other side. Be quiet and watch what he does and get evidence to back you up. Don't leave make him leave the house.
- Anonymous5 months ago
grow up ,, stop self deception
you knew this was not a good marriage he was not happy for 7 years
the problem is when we self deceive we lie to everyone about our own failures
- Anonymous5 months ago
being shocked is not a statement an aware and intelligent person says
so in your carelessness what else did you miss?
his big mistake if your being factual was not having a vasectomy and trusting you
every women know who had the extra child did so by design
projecting the problem on the child by you or others is just the problem ... he was talking about your deception
cramping style sounds just like a normal man saying you kept saying NO sex the kids are awake
add to your story -- were you a real sex machine inventive and actively perusing him and daring
5 times a week at least?
a man is like a car if it sets and is not used you cannot be upset when after 7 years of sitting it is not there for you
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- 5 months ago
I feel for you. I can only imagine what you are going through and I empathize. But he must have someone he has been seeing for a while. It’s not the kids the problem. How is one okay and the other is not? So he mean to say he has been looking at the 7 year old all this time and wishing he never had that child? No way. that’s the lamest excuse someone could ever give
- 5 months ago
AHAHAHAHHHAHAHHAHHHAHA!! Busting a gut on the floor howling with gleeful laughter. But seriously, if you are being truthful, how can you say this is out of nowhere? No serious marital issues? What about all the times you turned him down for sex? What about all the hard-ons you walked away from? There's a solid chance you haven't gotten him off for 7 years. How can you say this is out of nowhere? You have to know he has been aching for sex for years. You have to.
- PatriciaLv 75 months ago
I wish him all the luck in the world affording to live out here in California. Unless he has a 100,000 dollar or more income per year, he's not going to make it.
- Beverly SLv 75 months ago
Best advise is get an attorney now..
- EvaLv 75 months ago
Make a consultation appointment with good divorce lawyer. Stash some cash as he's likely to clean out the bank account(s) if he hasn't already. Start child support proceedings ASAP. You've been married long enough to qualify for spousal support. You may be able to work out your divorce settlement with a mediator, which is less expensive than an attorney, but only if he can be agreeable. He's been planning this for a while. Don't leave home, but don't share a bed with him either.
- tonyLv 75 months ago
he has a side piece...get a lawyer and go for child support,he cannot have one child without the other.... u may have dodged a bullet and was blind sided