Late husband and I would have a deal when we didn't feel like making dinner:
"You fly, I'll buy" In other words, one would make the trip to pick up takeout, (or go to the laundromat) and the one sitting in comfort at home would pay.
No one is forcing you. The fact is, you live an hour apart. You can fuss about being a girl, chivalry, fairness, and all that bs, but the fact is...you live an hour apart.
I wouldn't date someone that lived that far away. I just wouldn't. A man I met wanted to have a long-distance relationship, but the fact was, I couldn't afford it. To make it "fair" since people babble about that all the time, we would have alternated driving to one another's homes. I simply couldn't afford the fuel, wear and tear on the car, etc, of driving 200 miles twice a month to see him. Period. I had no intention of leaving my job and relocating (but I'm close to retiring, and didn't want to start a job search at 54 years old) He was retired, but didn't want to move. There were other issues,of course, but it wouldn't have changed anything.
No one's making you. So don't, if you don't want to. My boss is leasing a car: she didn't own one for the 18 years she lived in NYC. Some people find owning a car in the city a hassle. Some live in the city so they *don't have to* have the expense of driving a car. He may be lazy, or a jerk. But not owning a car isn't a determining factor of either one. He may feel YOU would feel more in control having your own transportation. I was stuck in a boat with a drunk date one afternoon, then he drove us back to my car. It was uncomfortable, to say the least. He may feel it's fair for you to travel if he pays for the date. Is that really unreasonable? If he does have a car, and drove out to see you, are there fun things to do near you home? (There really isn't, near me) If he drove to see you, would YOU be willing to pay for the date?
Look, it's a new era. Yes, people (men AND women) should make their partners feel respected and valued. But the whole idea that men have to pay for everything while women pass judgement on his finances is over and done. We make our own money now, and it's reasonable to think a woman is dating a guy for himself, not for financial support.
I don't see any point in starting a long distance relationship UNLESS you have the income to sustain it. So, I'd opt out. You may make more money than I do. How you spend your money and live your life is up to you.