May be you have high expectations, like thinking if you sleep with a guy, he will automatically go into LTR with you...many people are attracted to each other psychically, doesn’t mean they would make a good couple long term.
It’s all in your mind. Don’t sleep with anybody thinking, that if you give it up, you are dating. Sleep with someone because YOU want to, not expecting nothing else. And just see where it goes.
My last BF was “bad boy” like that. Sleeping with girls here and there. Then they would run after him (he is cute and a bit famous), call him, text him, hope that he would date them.
I was different. I was like: hey, thanks for the good times, see you when I see you. That was 2 years relationship. He even proposed, but I broke up with him for some other reasons. I bet you he never thought of me for long term like that in the first place.
Just have your own life. Don’t expect them to come and give you purpose.