Take control Women, kids in bed early and be firm, stay in bed no getting up. you have to have adult time and rules, other wise it won't get any better, it gets worse the older they get.
My kids used to argue and fight most of the time, but come 8pm the rule was its adult time, and if they wanted to stay up after that time, they had to sit on the sofa and be quiet and go to bed with no issues. and if they did anything different, they would not get to stay up after 8pm for a week, no matter how many tantrums they have.
That allows you to go to bed early and have together time without being disturbed, they also had to knock before asking to enter our bedroom, but a lock is also useful. be firm but fair.