Don't be his champion. If the man is afraid of his mother, lives with her, acts like her son, had chores, maybe far more chores that YOU think he ought to have, gives her more money than YOU think he ought to give her..... this is information for you. He's totally not ready for whatever relationship you THINK he ought to be available to have until HE kicks himself into gear and creates a different life for himself. In other words, you don't live with him, you two are not actively planning a marriage and his relationship with his MOM is HIS own business!! If you don't like it, don't approve of it and find it demeaning.... Say it once, break up with him, let him solve his own problems. He needs to be his OWN Champion. You're setting yourself up for a lifetime of trouble if you think that YOU need be his champion for him. No. That's the wrong way to choose a mate. It's the way to choose the wrong mate. Don't do it.