Anonymous asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 3 weeks ago

Why are some men uptight at accepting gifts from their girlfriends?

I bought my BF a sweater but he said he doesn't do that in his household. He said he'll only accept gifts when it is serious (meaning both families agree that relationship can become more).

15 Answers

  • Jerry
    Lv 6
    3 weeks ago
    Best answer

    Some people consider exchange of personal gifts like clothing to be appropriate only among family. If you're not engaged to marry this gentleman, then you're not family. Talk to the gentleman about what sort of gifts can be given without awkwardness, what sort of gifts should be avoided.

    Alternatively, determine that dealing with customs and norms so very different from your own isn't worth the bother and stop seeing him. But you can't have it both ways; he is who he is and his family's ways are part of that.

  • 3 weeks ago

    Because we aren't required to accept your gifts; we've got free will lol. But in all seriousness, perhaps he just didn't like the sweater....?

  • 3 weeks ago

    He is rude. He should have said thanks and not rejected your present. Not everyone will want to buy him things. The proper thing is stop buying him gifts and find a boyfriend with manners.

  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    3 weeks ago

    Sounds like this is more his family than him. However, he was raised by them so perhaps he feels the same.

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  • Raven
    Lv 5
    3 weeks ago

    The polite thing to say would be "Thank you." I don't get why in the world this culture is so accepting of men being rude to their girlfriends. Lesson learned, though. Don't buy him anything else until he starts appreciating you. Either that, or get a boyfriend with some common decency to say "Thank you" with a smile, or get a boyfriend that has been raised with some manners. Some people are acting like this sweater is an engagement ring. Maybe she thought it would look good on him and she was thinking about him. That's all.

  • 3 weeks ago

    You didn't say how long he's been your boyfriend. If it's longer than say six months, he's being a bit over-particular. But if it's only a few weeks, yes, clothing COULD be considered a little too personal.

  • 3 weeks ago

    maybe cause theyre not serious yet

  • 3 weeks ago

    To be succinct, because they lack class. If you encounter this often, you are clearly dating the wrong type of men.

  • 3 weeks ago

    Some men are raised like your boyfriend was, that's why.

  • 3 weeks ago

    He's got his family in mind. He's been with them for like 20+ years. He's been with you long enough for you to call him "boyfriend" but that's it.

  • 3 weeks ago

    Not a true story, especially from someone like you.

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