Judy asked in HealthWomen's Health · 1 month ago

How to prepare for losing your virginity?

I’m a 23 year old female who is (very nervously) prepping to have sex for the first time next week. I’m ready and I want to, but I’ve never even used a tampon and am wondering what to expect and if there’s anything I should do to prepare.

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  • 3 weeks ago

    Masturbation is best.  Fingering yourself and using some object like a hairbrush handle to stretch the vagina a bit first before having actual sex helps. Also, when you get ready make sure there's plenty of good, hot foreplay performed to get you wet. You may think about also using lubricant the first few times to help ease things.

  • 4 weeks ago

    Find a respectable man who loves you, get a diamond ring and then get married.  

  • Anonymous
    4 weeks ago

    You should prepare for getting "pregnant", "STD", "sin" and "pain"......LOL

  • 4 weeks ago

    by their teens, most have experimented by inserting objects and know what to expect

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  • alan P
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    Firstly don't think of it as losing your virginity.  You are not losing anything and he is definitely not take anything either.  You are going to share your first sexual experience with someone.  It best if you are used to intimate physical contact without having full sex so that when you go all the way its not a very big step. If you haven't done that then don't feel that you have to have him inside you the first time you go to bed together.  Talk to your boyfriend/partner/fiancé about what you expect.  He's probably nervous too. 

    When a woman gets aroused she not only gets wet but the vagina also opens up making it easier for the penis to enter.  It's important to do enough foreplay to reach this stage before going further.  When he does try to put it in it might only go a little way at first but he mustn't force it. Don't worry.  Enjoy feeling it there, move it around a bit, look at each other, kiss and cuddle, relax and then have another gentle push.  If it hurts stop. It might be easier if you go on top with your knees either side of his body.  Then you can control the process.  If you don't want to get pregnant make sure you are using good quality contraception.

    Everyone is different and you have to learn together a couple with love and understanding what works for both of you.

  • 4 weeks ago

    Yes you Learn about & explore your Own body

    there are Free Books at the library about the female body & sexuality

    you can start with the Classic My Body Myself book

    Plenty of good sites with True information- this one has plenty of information on the female body and first time sex.

    Education is the Key== Read these articles- easy to read - the Facts

    https://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/first...

    http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/sexual...

    https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/one_bloo...

    https://www.scarleteen.com/article/politics/magica...

    https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_cannot...

    https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_cant_o...

    https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies/innies_o...

    https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/the_clit...

    Educate yourself- you are 23 yrs old.

  • 1 month ago

    You need to learn to relax - otherwise it's likely to be painful and unenjoyable.

    He needs to take his time, and go easy.  If you aren't ready, then tell him so.

  • 1 month ago

    The only think you really need is to be sexually aroused before sex. And if the boyfriend doesn't sexually arouse you, there's no use to have sex with him at all

    • D_21
      Lv 5
      4 weeks agoReport

      It's really cool that you were confident, and comfortable with your special person. Some people are a little nervous about first times. Nothing wrong with it.

  • 1 month ago

    A different advice that no one usually says its that you need to feel confortable being naked in front of him. So take your time and take off your clothes. You can wait till the anxiety goes away and you feel confortable to have sex.

    • alan P
      Lv 7
      4 weeks agoReport

      The questioner might already be comfortable being naked with her partner or she might not - she doesn't say.  I would definitely agree that you want to be comfortable with each others bodies in other ways before having full sex

  • 1 month ago

    Get that kitty lubed up and work a cucumber or banana into it to prepare for your white boyfriend. If by chance u are giving it up to a black guy - good luck to you. You are going to be ripped in half.

    • D_21
      Lv 5
      1 month agoReport

      That's terrible advice and not even remotely true.

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