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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 month ago

Is it normal for married couples to argue shortly before a holiday arrives? (Argue because of stress preparing for guests, cleaning, etc.)?

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  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Yes. This would be especially true of you've got out of town relatives coming in.

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  • RP
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    It may seem that way, but it doesn't have to be, especially since you recognize this is a dangerous pitfall. You and your spouse can together work to change what was normal into something better, provided you're both committed and determined to succeed.

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  • 1 month ago

    Oh yes indeed. Stress makes people tetchy and anxious - and that breeds arguments.

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  • 1 month ago

    i would say, YES!

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    For some couples that's normal.  

    Other couples try not to take out their stress on one another.   Learning stress management skills and using them really isn't rocket science.  It requires a bit of self-awareness and self-discipline. 

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  • 1 month ago

    It is normal for any couple, married or not to argue about things.  It CAN be healthy.  And can help you learn about each other.  It is when you can't forgive the other person, or you can't come to an agreement that there is something wrong.  It is ok to be an individual and have choices and uncommon interests.  But there needs to be a middle ground.  And compromise without judgement, hurt or malicious intent.

    So yes, again it is normal for married couples to argue.  Holidays can be great fun.  But can also be a chore.  As you stated stress, preparing for guests, cleaning, cooking, maintaining the household with guests and entertaining the guests.  

    If you have guests, that brings another factor in.  How each other can handle the different personalities, the judgement that sometimes those guests bring, discomfort of having those guests there and can't 'let loose'  walk around in your jammies, or underwear or however you and your spouse handle that situation.  Can't say certain things around the guests or children.  There's a lot of things that the situations of the holidays can bring.

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