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Anonymous asked in Social ScienceGender Studies · 1 month ago

Why do many men fail to understand yes can mean no?

Just because no means no, doesn’t mean yes means yes. Some women can’t say no to men. Some women may feel differently the next day. Fail to understand this and you may find yourself facing rape accusations.

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago
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    Exactly!  Men need to know how sincere the yes really is.   If a woman later feels bad about having the sex, then her consent wasn’t genuine.   This is a classic case of male privilege.  Fortunately, more and more men are being called to task on this.  

  • Matt
    Lv 4
    1 month ago

    You can not retroactively remove consent. Yes does mean yes, and if you don't really mean it when you say it, then you are a LIAR. No court would ever uphold this moronic idea.

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    • John1 month agoReport

      Be decisive with who touches you, or you are someone who doesn't have the mental capacity to give consent anyway @Nickname

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  • ANDREW
    Lv 4
    1 month ago

    And people like you are why society is so f*cked up!!! Idiot!!!

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    • Nickname
      Lv 4
      1 month agoReport

      Just case someone gets consent through fraud doesn’t mean it’s not rape. It’s not normal to do abuse like sex anyways

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  • 1 month ago

    Women are just crazy. Why should men be expected to be mind readers?! Women need to just say what they mean.

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    No babes no. In english, yes means yes, and no means no. If a woman changes her mind after the intercourse has taken place, it's tough. She had any chance to back out before she took her knickers off. If a woman changes her mind and files charges or lies about the rape, she should get the same sentence as rapists to do.

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    I believe signed contracts will be in the near future before any touching begins.  It will be an app, both people have to click over to the app, link up and both press yes "consensual:  toughing, or "consensual one kiss"  or consensual multiple kisses, consensual groping,  consensual all the way etc..   

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    • @Glenn you're right. Just like prenups. All the woman has to do is whine in court that her husband was mean to her psychologically and the judge will throw out the prenup.

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  • 1 month ago

    I believe signed contracts will be in the near future before any touching begins.  It will be an app, both people have to click over to the app, link up and both press yes "consensual:  toughing, or "consensual one kiss"  or consensual multiple kisses, consensual groping,  consensual all the way etc..    

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Should you file rape charges against a man and there is an acknowledgement that you said yes but changed your mind after it was over, the complaint will most likely meet the trash can! Furthermore you,  the complainant may face charges of filing a false report!

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    • Nickname
      Lv 4
      1 month agoReport

      it took me at least a month to realise what he did was a rape, you want a person with mental trauma to do it in a day? not possible, hence why so many rapes are only reported 10 years after

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  • 1 month ago

    Well, when a female can actually make up her mind, let us know, will ya?

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Women have to understand that men think the way they do.  More often than not, the man wants the woman because he likes her, and idk why women don’t appreciate it feeling liked or compliments.

  • Elana
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Feeling different the next day is NOT a valid complaint.  It just isn't.

    The idea that women don't feel that they can say "no" when they don't want to is only slightly more valid.  Slightly.

    You can imagine if a guy is coming across as a bully and she doesn't want to get hurt that she might give in rather than risk getting hurt.  Thing is, her fear may or may not be misplaced, but her consent might be objectively unambiguous.

    If she's afraid of him, why isn't she getting away from him?  Why would she hang around in a fearful circumstance?

    She is responsible for her safety, and if she doesn't understand HER OWN FEAR, how can she expect him to?

    Yeah, there comes a point where somebody might have to hurt somebody else's feelings because they don't want sex.  Not everything is pleasant all of the time.  Humans do not always (ever?) communicate clearly, and both parties need to keep clarity in mind.

    If somebody doesn't want to hurt your feelings so agrees to have sex with you, you aren't raping them by having sex with them unless you actually know they are lying to you.  Reread this.   It's complex, but it is the crux of the above.  If you say you want sex and there is no other compelling data, you can't claim the other person is raping you.

    Mind reading is not possible.  Even if you want it to be really really really badly.

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    • Nickname
      Lv 4
      1 month agoReport

      It takes time to realize what guy is doind is actually rape, one day is not enough with mental trauma. There shouldn’t be a time limit, male should be held responsible even 20 years after. 

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