Is this a reasonable request? ?

My partner smokes weed. He holds down a full time job and he has cut down on the amount he smokes but for me I want him to give it up completely as I don’t want my kids to grow up in a household where their father does drugs that they may some day find and use or think this is normal and start doing it. I used to smoke weed it made me lazy and basically was a waste of time and money. I gave up and gave up easily. He told me before he would do anything for me but when I bring this up he gets angry and screams and says I don’t make you give up stuff i am a hard worker etc. I feel like weed is much more important in his life than I am. I think I need to break it off I’ve been with him for 8 years and have wasted that time now I’m probably too old to find love again I’m 27. What should I do I definitely feel second best to a drug which is very upsetting. 

1 Answer

  • 10 months ago

    I think that there's a lot of variables to this question, so there's no clear Yes or No answer. It sounds like the first step you should take would be having a conversation with your partner where you basically tell him exactly how you feel, and allow him to say how he feels. That way, you can know that he knows that this is really bothering you and now the decision is up to him if he wants to change his habits. 

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