Girl said this to me after 1st Date. What does it mean? “No spark”?

“I had a good time too!! You seem super cool! You’re super intelligent and were very fun to talk to! I’m going to be honest though, I didn’t really feel that spark you know? I don’t wanna lead you on so I’d rather be up front, I’m sorry! Wish you all the best though!!! Thanks again for a great night!”

We actually talked nonstop and I surely felt some spark for a first date. 

Did she simply hated how I looked or there was genuinely no spark for her? 


We obviously parted ways and there won’t be a second date, which is fine. Just wanted to get some insight. 

35 Answers

  • Merry
    Lv 7
    2 months ago
    Favourite answer

    For her the chemistry just wasn't there. 

    Yes - she enjoyed the evening, the conversation and stated that you seem "cool" and "smart" but you just weren't her type & she didn't see things between the two of you going anywhere. 

    Fair or unfair she clearly has her criteria & is clear about what she is looking for and what warrants a second date. 

    You clearly had an enjoyable evening, for most girls I know, that would at least warrant a second date to see if the spark is there or not. 

    I wouldn't take this to heart - judgement that is so black and white is not a great quality in a potential partner. Her loss! 

  • -
    Lv 6
    2 months ago

    If you have repeated what she to you, word for word...then you don't understand simple english. She was very clear in what she said. 

  • 2 months ago

    I'm so sorry you had to dealt with a girl that didn't have a sexual connection with you. Tbh, Idk why I had a spark with my 2nd ex bf when we was hanging out, alone together? He already moved on. He has a son that is 2 years old now.😯

  • 2 months ago


    It means she doesnt want another date. but had a good time.

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  • 2 months ago

    According to Michelle's Method TM, she is not interested and without any chemistry, there is no reason for continuing. I always advise women to drop men they do not go for as there is no potential. Believe me, it is best for both of you. What is platonic cannot be sexual. 

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    Lack of chemistry between the two of you.Some people need to feel/sense the chemistry.They might have felt that during the time the two of you spent together there lacked some chemistry,lack of compatibility,etc.Just move on and find someone else.

  • Orla C
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    She's young and immature. Just be nice to her about it, and wish her the best, and move on yourself. 

  • 2 months ago

    What she told you us that you're a great guy although you're not a guy she could fall in love wit.

  • 2 months ago

    The spark is some sort of connection, a feeling that happens when two people meet, and it's usually a sexual attraction.  Women are kind of funny when it comes to their sex drives, and by funny I mean insanely complicated.

    Some women are all about looks, in fact some women have almost no standards at all.  In my not-so-humble experience, however, the girls who get naked on the first date are also the girls who tend to drive off cliffs or start fires in bathrooms for no apparent reason.  Be glad you didn't date that kind of girl, at least.  

    For normal women, there are many aspects to being sexually attracted to a guy.  I don't think even they can explain it in simple terms, and they're the ones who experience it.  For us, sexual attraction is very simple.  If it has a vagina and weighs less than 300 pounds, we'll have sex with it.  That's the way we were designed and built, but women are wired a little differently.  They don't mind a guy who is good looking, and / or smart and / or funny, but those aren't the only factors in their equation.  The 'spark' is one of those factors, and if it's not there it's not there.

  • 2 months ago

    How good of a time did she have I hope you didn't spend much money on her. Hey it happens to the best of us there's 4 billion women on earth keep looking cause you aren't getting a ride on that one.  At least she didn't keep stringing you along for free meals and entertainment now your one step closer to finding a woman that will give you some.

  • kswck2
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    It means you have been dumped. 

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