иozoмi asked in Social SciencePsychology · 1 month ago

Have you learned how to manage the idea that others have of you?

only few people know how to see me for what i really am, sometimes they can even see what was there, but i didn't see, and if they have something they don't like about me, they communicate it to me making me feel their affection.

with others i never agree in the slightest, i would they not even think of me, not even positive thoughts, they don't reflect me at all. what should i do? argue every time to make me understand (boring, difficult..)? live with it by adapting (is it truly necessary?..)? restrict the circle of my acquaintances to those who understand me?

Update:

even at the cost of suffering a crushing loneliness (in the last option)?

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  • 1 month ago
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    You have to keep in mind that people talk behind our backs all the time.  Whether you call it cossip or talking behind our backs.  It is human nature & cannot be stopped.

    For myself, I do not care what they say.  It does not bother me at all.  Those that really know me won't damage my image & will defend me in gossip conversations.  Those who don't really know me come up with some of the weirdest reasons to harm me by gossip.  Telling lies & throwing accusations right & left.  Let them, I don't care.

  • 1 month ago

    I learned long ago not to care about it.

    I have my own life.

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