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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 month ago

What happens when a married couple grows apart?

After being married 12 yrs things get very boring. That won't change anything though.

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  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    They either get it together, with or whiteout the help of a marriage counselor, they sadly split up or they just endure in complacency. But in most marriages this all boils down to a lack of time for romance - from the wife's perspective and sex - from the husband's perspective. Sometimes reprioritizing the relationship and making time for each other is the only fix needed. 

  • Raja
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    When things get boring there is a tendency for one of them to seek pleasure with another which results in  adultery . In some cases it leads to legal separation .There are other side effects like addition to drinking or gambling .That is mostly in the case of males .   

  • 1 month ago

    We periodically spend a few months traveling together. It's quite bonding. In particular, when you think you can't stand it a moment longer but you're in a small town in Mexico and short of funds... or Canada or Morocco or Ireland, etc. you face the fact that you actually CAN stand it and actually CHERISH it and it stops being boring because you both know you are together on purpose. On purpose. So you are both, individually, responsible for your fun and laughter and happiness and excitement. My husband and I have driven across country and back four times, had numerous adventures abroad and in countries we could drive to and have found, every time, that it beats being bored! And, at some point or another, we face the fact, again,  that we are intentionally partners and want to continue as such. Personal responsibility is vital in a marriage. Escape together. It's much better than escaping separately. 

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  • KTJoe
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    MCouples don't grow apart, more of a slow period or adultery on the rise. If children, pets, a household are active then a marriage shouldn't be boring. 

  • 1 month ago

    Are you speaking about yourself and your own marriage? Please clarify so we can better advise you. "What happens" depends upon the individual couple and their situation.

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    If things are 'boring' then they're not the one for you.  When you truly love someone they don't get 'boring' all of a sudden.  Many people choose relationships out of desperation simply because they fear being alone for the rest of their lives.  That causes them to enter a relationship where they still feel empty inside.  There's just no feelings for the other person from the very beginning.

  • 1 month ago

    Don't confuse "boredom" with growing apart.  It is difficult to keep the same level of excitement going.  However the pleasure of being together more than compensates.  You do things together.  After some years you can be so inseparable that no one even thinks of you otherwise.

    PS I am not qualified to say what happens when they grow apart because after 50 years we have grown together.  Spliced as one person. 

  • 1 month ago

    carry on or part ways....your choice

  • 1 month ago

    Ask yourself why you hot married.

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